Covert abuse/ Bitter Cowardice
Covert abuse/ Bitter Cowardice
I'm really struggling with this mentally and why he felt motivated to do this crap to me. What pissed me off most (besides the abuse itself and it's delivery) was his complete denial of it. He was so innocent! And I was Overly-Sensitive and always looking for Hidden-Meanings, Always Thinking The Worst Of Him so I could permeate the atmosphere with Gloom And Doom. What a joke! This would make me FURIOUS because it's not only not my style, but the polar opposite of my personality.
He's 23 years older than me. When I met him, he'd told me he was ten years younger than his actual age. I'd been 27- almost 28, so this made him (supposedly) 40. He'd looked closer to fifty and I'd usually dated younger guys but I really liked him so it didn't matter much. (I did think it was really bizarre when he showed me a pic from his b-day at the office that year though, complete with an "Over The Hill" birthday cake. I'd thought...wtf? Your co-workers are mean! But he'd (slipped, I think) laughed, blown it off. I'd bought it.) Fkng ASShole. Anyway, he must've been HELLA insecure because he love love loved to demean me in ways that targeted my age and sexuality. He'd bait me, call me A Keeper, tell me he'd love it if I had his daughter, but then do little creepy things like leave his pocket change on my nightstand when we'd part ways. Nice, huh? I'd asked him about this after the fifth or so time he'd done it & it had stopped looking like a random forget, but of course it was blamed on my insecurity. Or senility. He liked to call me old, even though I'm 34 and look closer to 24. I was constantly mistaken for his daughter, we got some weird looks. Seriously, I'm not trying to boast or anything (=/) I'm pretty humble, just stating so you'll understand. I'm sure it'll catch up with me and fast pretty soon anyway. I'm having an awful time sleeping and eating. =( So, he'd call me Old Bag. Tell me about how close I was to 40 and manage to point out how I consistently fell short of responsible- something I should've been at my advanced age but hey it's cool, if we got married he'd handle the money and I could use my little brain for other stuff like pursuing my passions. Yes, Little Brain. He called me that too. I blew that one off. Of course he was Kidding. Another weird jab... when he'd be at my place and I'd leave him (briefly) in my apartment to go pick up food or something, he'd mime a feminine demeanor, request a kiss at the door and then say; "Okay, thank you! See you next time!" Wtf?? I asked him about that but he just feigned confusion. Meant nothing by it of course. I began laughing when he'd say it so he finally fkng stopped. Clearly he'd wanted to point out to me that he'd thought me a dumb, cheap whore? It filled me with terror. Once he showed up with a huge ziplock bag filled with condoms. We'd always used the pull/pray method though he'd liked to tell me all the time that we really needn't do this since he'd be so elated if I had his baby. I never took that bait though because I'd honestly not wanted kids and still don't. I'd gotten the sense a few times that he was disappointed at my not (taking the bait) wanting my baby hopes crapped on by him. The condom bag made me so mad. He'd said he'd gotten it at Costco which was supposed to explain the ridiculous quantity and the fact that we'd never used them before. I'll never forget his face when I'd asked him if he was trying to make some kind of statement. Pussy that he is, he'd actually looked AFRAID. If I hadn't been so upset, I might've found it amusing. It was the same look he wore every time he was in a situation that had his eyes, his FAKE self being peered at closely by me. Fkng reto.
Why the hell did he want to do this to me? Because he'd had zero respect for me? And not only that but thought me his personal whore and wanted me to feel like a cheap one too? Why? So if I were with someone else some day, he'd have hopefully ruined my sexually confident & fun self for me and the guy too? Or because he just thought of me as trash? This kills and I really want to understand. It makes my stomach turn. It makes me cry, it hurts so deep. I try not to let it bug me since it was a SCUMBAG mental case's pov, but it hurts anyway. =(
Writing
Hey Venus
Hmm subconsciously not
They betray themselves
Writing talent
Mocking his cowardice...
Are you pretty convinced
This is so true Briseis...we
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Treating EVERYONE the same