Confused & setback

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#1 Jun 20 - 7PM
SeeingClearlyNow
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Confused & setback

I feel like I've been set back a few steps yesterday. Me and my ex narc don't work together but we work in the same building, it hasn't been very often I've ran into him (thankfully) but yesterday I was leaving another building and he drove past me on his way to work-he didn't see me I jus noticed the car but what set me back was that he had a bike rack and yes some of you might think, "so what?". I would've thought that too except when we were together he would mention how he wanted a bike and of course I responded with enthusiasm letting him know that that would be awesome if we could get bikes and take rides, rides wlith my son etc. Well nothing ever came of that he would still mention it but do nothing.
Now I know his new wench bike rides...soooo when I seen that it was like a smack in the face... He didn't even entertain the thought with me but is out there doing it with her. As much as I'm trying to not think about it it still messed me up. Why do I care? What does it even matter? I know he's not sitting back wondering about me or my kids, thinking how we are doing so why do I still?
And trust me I have been appreciating all that I have going on in my life right now, and I'm doing me and focusing on my children but does this pain/these thoughts ever go away?

Also, it makes me feel like he's won, like he's been able to move on, be happy, enjoy life with someone new ( even if it is fake) and yet here I am. For me being with someone just to help me get over his sorry ass isn't the answer and yet I wonder, is it?

Jun 28 - 9PM
Ready4Me
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I know exactly how you feel.

Jun 28 - 11PM (Reply to #16)
Luv2bme
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Sudden interests, concerts..

Jun 28 - 8AM
ready2receive
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bikes and other things

Jun 30 - 3PM (Reply to #13)
SeeingClearlyNow
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Ready you..

Jun 30 - 6PM (Reply to #14)
ItsFinallytime
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If you really want to move on

Jun 28 - 8AM (Reply to #12)
Luv2bme
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bikes, marathons, attention..

Jun 22 - 11AM
talktothehand
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Extra, Extra, Asshole buys bike rack

Jun 21 - 8AM
tiredofthisaddiction
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I can't remember where I read this

Jun 21 - 7AM
SeeingClearlyNow
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Thanks...

Jun 21 - 5AM
Pumpkin
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There will be days

Pumpkin

Jun 21 - 4AM
Luv2bme
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Similar story..,

Jun 22 - 3AM (Reply to #6)
thebigpayback
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thanks for posting this, luv

Jun 20 - 8PM
ItsFinallytime
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Let's start a the end of your

Jun 22 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
talktothehand
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IFT

Jun 28 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
Janie53
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I second that!!!

Jun 29 - 7AM (Reply to #4)
ItsFinallytime
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Thank you both, TTTH and