Confession and a question.
Confession and a question.
My ex had ED. There I said it.
It happened about 4 months into the relationship. I had gotten all dressed up and surprised him. He failed to maintain. I had never experienced this before. I reacted badly. I was so hurt and confused. I thought for sure I must have looked so grotesque.
He told me it wasn't me. I cried myself to sleep that night.
Almost everytime after that it happened. He told me that I was my fault because I reacted so badly. I was so ashamed that I had reacted so selfishly. For the next 3 years he nevr failed to remind me how I had runined him. He told me that I ruined him and that I would leave to find someone who could please me. I told him that I would never leave someone because their penis didn't work also due to the fact that I caused it...I was more determined than ever to make it right. I had even considering leaving him not because I wanted to but because I wanted him to be able to be with someone who 1. Didn't ruin him and he could be sexual with again 2. So he could find someone who didn't repulse him.
It got to the point where he starved me for sex and then to the point where I was too afraid to try. For the next three years I had to live with the fact that I did this damage to another human being. I took from him his manhood he would say and in turn I took my punishment as gracefully as I could. My punishment was to never feel desireable again. To never felt confident and sexy. To never to be with the onle I truly loved without fear and grief.
This changed me.
Men would approach me and I would think that there must be something wrong with them for hitting on me. That maybe they felt pity for me. It would happen while I was out with my ex...he never even noticed. I was nothing. I just simply did not exsist. My selfesteem was vapourized. I would never be redeemed.
This year I found out that it had happened before me, with someone else.
I carried this with me everyday....so much shame and guilt...all the doctors and advice and trying to get him to forgive me. The doctors had told me it was a common reaction but I could not forgive myself.
I have not told anyone this. It is my confession. I am also asking if anyone else's exN had ED.
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