Cognitive Dissonance Help
Cognitive Dissonance Help
Hi. I am new here. I want to post my whole story soon, I am just not ready yet. It is still too raw for me right now. It has been 9 days NC. I know this may sound crazy but this wasn't my choice. My N made this choice. My N D&D'd me after turning the tables on me and then blamed me as she walked away. It seems like this site is all about men and their victims - but I am here to tell you women can be vicious Ns. I loved this woman with every fiber of my being and she ripped out my heart and stomped all over it. Every night since I have cried myself to sleep and waked with tears every day. Again, I know how twisted it sounds but everytime the phone rings or I get a text my heart skips a beat wondering if it is her. I was not ready to let go because I still believed the woman I fell in love with was "in there" somewhere. All I did to bring this about was to try to talk about my feelings and God forbid, mention that I had needs. I didn't even get the chance to say what those needs were. When she left she refused to even listen to anything I had to say. She slept with me a week beforehand and wouldn't even let me inside the door of the home we practically shared 7 days later. So, my question is, how do you get past this when it was the N that did the leaving? Then blamed you? This woman was is the love of my life. This happened with my N once before, almost one year to the day as the second time, and she came back. I don't know if I am strong enough to resist if she did this time. Is it wrong to still cling to hope that we could ever be together again? And be healthy? I don't know if I am ready to let go.
Welcome, Rose :)
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Rose
Hi blueeyes - that's a great link!
Ava
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Blueeyes :)
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Blueeyes :)
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Thank you blueeyes x
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Dear Ava
Oh blueeyes I hope so, i really really hope so.
Ava
Hi and welcome
Nevergoback
Hiya Rose
Ava
Ava, thank you so much for
Rose
Utterly my pleasure Rose xx
Ava
First off
CD vs. DD