cognitive dissonance
cognitive dissonance
I am suffering from this badly , as this thread states
http://www.lisaescott.com/2011/07/18/what-if-he-isnt-narcissist
if he did this “nice” thing, then maybe he IS “nice”?….but …if he IS “nice”, then how come he did this abusive thing or said that abusive thing…so he MUST be “bad”?; he must be a narcissist?…..I mean, he fits almost ALL of the criteria!…but there is one or two or maybe even three things he DOESN’T fit…so maybe he really isn’t a narcissist…maybe he IS nice and normal but *I* caused him to be “bad”?…OMG, maybe *I* am the narcissist??!!……wait, No. I couldn’t have caused it and I’m not a narcissist. He is mean and abusive. But if he really is mean and abusive, how come he did “nice” things?... But if he is nice, how come he abused me …yup. That’s it. He is bad. I feel better now. phewf! He is DEFINATELY a narcissist....well at least MAYBE a narcissist....except there were times he was good and appeared normal....maybe he is not a narcissist then, maybe he is bi - polar, or borderline.....maybe I better look THAT up because that might have the answers I need ....”
This is EXACTLY how the coversation goes in my head, I feel crazy!
When does this end? Anyone know, does it wear off or do you need professional help for CD?
If u have doubt
not crazy
When you reach acceptance, deep in your heart, the cd goes away
NO MORE ANYTHING TO THE N/P
Jen, lovely post
beautiful post, jen
What a great post!
Thanks you Jen
I think most of us have gone