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Close call

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#1 Apr 30 - 2PM
Swan
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Close call

Really close call. I almost just answered my Narc husband's email. I was so close I actually had it half written and then I said to myself "Giiiirl, what are you doing??" So I did a mental head slap and snapped back into reality and back into continuing NC mode.
Go Me!
His email BTW, was all "I will always love you and will always be there for you whenever you need me" and blah blah blah.
Really? You weren't there for me when we were together, so why would I expect you to be there for me when we are apart??!!
Idiot.

May 1 - 4PM
momoya
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A+ and a STAR

"Really? You weren't there for me when we were together, so why would I expect you to be there for me when we are apart??!!" EXACTLY! Swan. Good for you! it is hard to break old habits, and hard to turn away but you recognized this was BS and a ploy for contact / supply. Keep up the good work, all of it will pay off when you eventually find your peace again. We will be tested, but you passed this one with flying colors!!

momoya

May 1 - 8AM
Hunter
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Idiot

Yep, I truly don't think they even compute what they say or do. Twisted pretzels. NCNCNCNCNC Hunter
May 1 - 8AM
Happy1
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Great job!

Great job!
May 1 - 8AM
Swan
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More emails from the Narc

Continuous emails. Now he's throwing me emails that start out strictly as housekeeping kind of things about bills, etc and then the last bits are always some emotional thing thrown in there for good measure. I answer the "housekeeping" questions but ignore the other stuff. Then he emails back, "why aren't you answering the other questions?" (why did you leave? Why does it have to be this way? Why won't you talk to me? I will always love you... blah blah blah) What do I do? I kind of have to maintain a certain business like relationship with him until my lawyer can take all that over but then I have to pay him an arm and a leg to do that. What do I do? Am I doing the right thing by just keeping it business and ignoring the other stuff? That is semi NC I know, but I don't have much of a choice as he still pays some of my bills right now and I can't have him getting pissed and cutting that off. I can't afford to pay those myself and he knows that. HELP!! What to do?? How can I go full NC without screwing myself?
May 1 - 3PM (Reply to #8)
kgirl
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You're doing great!....just

You're doing great!....just keep it to the "housekeeping" issues. Sending you strength.... ~KG
May 1 - 8AM (Reply to #7)
Happy1
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Ignore. He is dying for any

Ignore. He is dying for any attention. Good or bad it's attention
Apr 30 - 6PM
Swan
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The Narc emailed me again

At least I have it in writing now that I ended it. So there's a plus. :-) Just trying to look on the bright side today. AND I haven't emailed him back. another plus.
Apr 30 - 5PM
sara-smile
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Amen Swan!

That is awesome! You did great!
Apr 30 - 3PM
onwithmylife
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SWAN

YOU have got it and you are smart!!!
Apr 30 - 3PM
findingmeagain
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Exactly ! I blocked my ex N's

Exactly ! I blocked my ex N's emails he can't email me. He can't call me either got those blocked as well. Last time we talked he said if I can't call you don't call me. Okay cool NC for now 5 days and its hard especially at night I'm use to sleeping with someone but its getting better .
Apr 30 - 3PM
dudette
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Swan

Good call!!!! well done you Dx