Classic Codependent - Be Warned

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#1 Mar 10 - 6AM
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Classic Codependent - Be Warned

What Made Me Susceptible To Being Addicted her and being a narcissist sycophant?
Narcs are drawn to ''nice'' people but they are also drawn to good looking people or rich people. So I understand people who are overcoming addictions (like me) and have an addictive personality. Truly for me, this was the hardest thing about my self-development until I really understood the truth about her.
I had always had incredibly addictive tendencies. Alcohol, drugs, cigarettes and being a workaholic and now addicted to my narcissistic partner.
Absolute “love addiction” was huge for me. She was very shallow personalities and live for attention and admiration… She had serial lovers, serial marriages or had countless empty affairs. (She didn’t introduced me to friends or family because of this)
I was a classic co-dependent. She has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) she is a somatic narcissist
Her Traits:
I said I won’t be able to pay for your flights if we go away. She said thats all right I use my airmiles not I wouldn’t expect you too.
She was a Travel retail manager earning a salary 32K on average, how come she moves in to such a high paying job with her Boss?? A PA who gets a 90K car bought for her and an 90K company car?? It's blindingly obvious she is her Boss’s mistress and that's why I wasn't allowed around her or is it his house or never allowed to meet her family.
She dressed in expensive designed clothes focusing attention on her makeup and hair always.
Always said she was going to have plastic surgery
Sent me provocative pictures all the time
Letting me down all the time and lying
All her clothes bought for her including designer 3k coat 1.5k shoes and 2K handbag the tip of the iceberg of what is being bought for her.
Newspaper article on how good she looks for her age says her partner is her Boss when she was going out with me??
Incredibly selfish as it's all about her.
Narcissists love masturbation as she did as it doesn’t involve emotional intimacy. The somatic narcissist uses other people's bodies to masturbate. Sex with her was impersonal and was emotionally alienating and draining experience in time once the initial excitement had worn off I would’ve been left cold. (I was treated as an object, an extension of the somatic narcissist, a toy, a warm and pulsating vibrator)
Boasting how many hearts she has broken
She boasted that she didn’t want to have sex with her ex boyfriend and mimicked him by saying he said ‘you don’t want to have sex with me anymore’
Boasting that her last boyfriend still hasn’t got over her and hasn’t moved on.
She had multiple failed relationships
Its all about her all the time
Went abroad with me and paid for everything on expenses and boasted that her boss will buy her a nice gift for going even though she was being paid anyway.
Never acknowledged or thanked me for a compliment
Never said thank you or please
Flash and haughty
Always giving herself self praise and breezing into a room with that "look at me aren't I just gorgeous' look about her”
Never paid for anything
Everything on expenses
Never called me always texting
demeaned me for using my store card to collect points when I she wouldn't let a penny go on her expenses.
Did not send me a xmas card.
I bought her the most expensive perfume for xmas she bought me the cheapest
Emotionally unavailable
Gets drunk and spends the evening in bed with a headache. Takes risks drinks and drives
Always drinking alcohol
Pregnant at 18
You will need to remind yourself that narcissists are incapable of change, and that they are incapable of genuinely loving anyone.

I’ve blocked her so she cannot hoover me and I need to remain strong and move on.

Be warned if you’re in a similar relationship as there is no cure for narcissistic personality disorder. Leave the relationship now or be destroyed!!

Mar 10 - 8AM
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