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#1 Aug 14 - 3PM
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Chloe's story

For twenty-three years I was married to a pathological narcissist; cerebral to be precise. He demeaned, devalued, humiliated, and punished me throughout the entire marriage, all along telling me that I was "crazy." Sometimes the behaviors toward me were very subtle, where you questioned yourself, "Is it me?"

The macabre dance played to his tune and thus each and every step caused many splinters along the way. I was the girl who loved life! I laughed and saw all the good in people. Empathize? I could feel the pain of others, as if they were all family members. So, why would I end up with a man who could not empathize or show true emotion; a man who was so RUDE to everyone around him? What "was" wrong with me? And so, after a very destructive and almost debilitating divorce, I trudged along and discovered "narcissism" and how projection played into the house of mirrors.

Like an onion, I peeled back all the layers to discover my own inner-core, with honesty and perseverance, I took every measure to gain my "true" self back. Who am I? I honestly didn't know. It was as if my soul was almost lost to a vampire.

There is no set remedy for dealing with the ramifications of narcissism and the affects the mental abuse has had on one's psyche. My body too reflected the result of living this way, from anxiety to real-life aches and pains. For me, it was a true understanding of this disorder and what it means, a good therapist, a lot of self-help books, exercise, and a healthy spiritual life.

Seven years later, with many bumps and bruises along the way, I have found thy true self, and I have forgiven the wolf in man's clothing.

Nov 4 - 7PM
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Chloe

Wow! I'm so glad you learned of Narcissism and have become so versed in its evil. You've really done your homework! Thank you! Through your story I can see there is light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sorry you had to go through the hell that you did but it sounds like you played your cards right and made the life for yourself God intended for you to have in the first place. Your wisdom is appreciated as I and many others are in the midst of the storm... PS: Hey - I think a book is a great idea! Actually, we've probably already written it! I say we pole together and get a book out there to advance the process of spreading the word about N's - - - so many people have no idea! I'm serious! What do you think Barbara - we need a publicist and what else (Lisa?)..... I'm not in it to make money....I just want to rip their as*es in half.....that's all! EXPOSE! YOU TELL LIES LIKE A CHILD SPEAKS THE TRUTH SO GOOD YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW ~LISA SCOTT~(go to music tab) nolongercontrolled
Nov 5 - 9PM (Reply to #31)
Kate (not verified)
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COUNT ME IN SISTERS!!!!!!!

Grossot--I think you should make a NEW POST with that idea!! DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!!!!!!!! EXPOSE THE darkness!!!!!!!!! You can use my info!!!!!!! Where do I sign????? LOL All Fired Up!!!
Nov 3 - 10PM
Barbara (not verified)
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Tamra

no worries. I am no longer a X-tian just be careful about Proselytizing. Here's somethings from a X-tian on Forgiveness: http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/2007/07/forgiveness.html http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/2008/02/forgiveness-or-lack-thereof.html http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/2008/02/testing-for-repentance.html not trying to change your mind - just expand it a little. ;^} ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 4 - 11AM (Reply to #19)
Kate (not verified)
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Oh you're thinking I'm one of THOSE

Oh you're thinking I'm one of THOSE X-tians... No - I follow Scripture ONLY. I don't worship on Sunday, I don't celebrate Christmas, Easter or any other Pagan holiday. I follow the Sacred scriptures... I FOLLOW the TRUE CHRIST of Scripture. All the X-tians you probably know are serving the WRONG ONE. Blind guides Leading Millions into a Pit of Ignorance. I have NOTHING to do with them or their customs. I am not of a "Denomination" or "Non-Denomination" What they teach is CRAP!! Not scriptural. I am attempting to follow Scripture = I'm moving toward true repentance = Period the END. I appreciate your heart - But I have no need to look any further ~ I know now I have found the Well of Life. And I Don't Proselytize. That's God's Job = No Worries ;) XO PS. Hey... I read your story about your childhood last night and made a comment but today I can't find it. It was titled "Do Narcs attract Evil" or something like that... Did I say too much and you removed it? All Fired Up!!!
Nov 4 - 7PM (Reply to #24)
4joys (not verified)
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I actually had to think

I actually had to think about what a "X-tian" was. Do you all mean christian? If you do, why cant we just say it? Why the big X? We dont say Xewish, or Xuddist. Whats the deal with that?
Nov 5 - 12AM (Reply to #25)
Kate (not verified)
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Well.. ha ha - I just

Followed Barbara's lead with that. I figured she was doing that because of some kind of religious "line"... But You're Right... yes, it IS Christian and I am learning a lot in a Bible Course I'm in right now online- But I tend to NOT like to say I am one because there are MILLIONS of Fake ones... and I don't want to be affiliated with them quite frankly. Sorry - I feel bad that they are all off-track but yeah.. anyway that's that. I am looking into being converted into what I have been shown is God's True Church according to scripture. I Hope that helped answer your question. I think Barbara just used the 'x' like it is also used for xmas... same formula~ All Fired Up!!!
Nov 5 - 4PM (Reply to #28)
Chloe
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I don't get it?

What does the "Christian" thing have to do with Not forgiving?
Nov 5 - 8PM (Reply to #29)
Barbara (not verified)
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Chloe

I was responding to something Tamra alluded to. That's all. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 5 - 7AM (Reply to #26)
Barbara (not verified)
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X-tian

X-tian has long been an acronym for Christian. Nothing bad intended BTW - I follow Torah and Talmud as best I can. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 5 - 9PM (Reply to #27)
Kate (not verified)
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Well Barbara -

THAT'S precisely part of What the Modern Day X-tian has FORGOTTEN... However noble its not about following the whole Torah - Because the Jews ALREADY PROVED it couldn't be done - That was why Christ came. He did it. Its NOW about Repentance toward the Father thru Christ, Baptism & observing the 10 Commandments and the Feasts, and the Law of Love defined in I Cor. 13. Following Christ's example from Scripture - Not some guy On Sunday at the Pulpit. Chloe = ACCORDING TO THE AUTHORITY AND AUTHENTICITY OF THE SCRIPTURES we are told forgiveness is required in order to receive it ourselves From the Creator. Its SOWING & REAPING. That's the bottom line. People want to "qualify" people sometimes for it - But God just says Do it so I am striving to do that = He's a GOOD FATHER - He knows Stuff that we don't. I TRUST HIM. I'm not there yet... but its the Goal. Sorry - didn't mean to preach - just explain. Hope that clears it up from my side anyway...and I hope I didn't offend anyone but if I did I am sorry~ All Fired Up!!!
Nov 4 - 1PM (Reply to #20)
Barbara (not verified)
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um.... no

I didn't remove anything. I usually give a warning before I do. Anna Valerious has a post on her site called "Do Narcissists Attract Supernatural Evil?" http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com Did you make the comment there? Because that is not my site. My site is below. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 4 - 7PM (Reply to #21)
Kate (not verified)
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No..

No... that's not it. It was listed in the Message board and Yes it had that sort of title = the comments were from July 09... Sound familiar? It was Reposted because Halloween was near... I thought it was your story of your Narc. Mother and the scarey pic in the Bathroom? The children with the Empty eyes... Yikes! Ringing any bells yet??? HELP!! Lol All Fired Up!!!
Nov 4 - 8PM (Reply to #22)
Barbara (not verified)
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sorry Tamra

nope - not my story. Sorry. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 5 - 12AM (Reply to #23)
Kate (not verified)
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Ok seriously...

THAT'S CRAZY WEIRD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All Fired Up!!!
Nov 2 - 3PM
Kate (not verified)
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Wow Chloe

My my... they are so much alike... all of them with only subtle differences. I only spent 5 years with my Wolf... I am so sorry you were in MUCH MUCH deeper than I. I never had children with it! I don't even regard him as human... to me he's NOT human. But I am MUCH like you... You are very well written. Perhaps a book is not a bad idea ;) I also love to write... my IQ style is "Insightful Linguist" I know that these monsters are sent to try and destroy the Good in us. I will Not let him or what he did fill me with hate thus duplicating himself. NO WAY! And don't any of you either. Forgive~ Its the ONLY door to True Freedom. Take Care... All Fired Up!!!
Nov 2 - 5PM (Reply to #6)
Barbara (not verified)
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forgive a pathological? that's a joke

http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/04/04/those-who-tell-you-just-get-over-it-or-forgive-forget ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 3 - 12PM (Reply to #7)
Kate (not verified)
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Forgiveness

No its No Joke Barbara. You misunderstand what Forgiveness IS. Forgiveness Doesn't SAY "HEY - Its OK what you did to me" Forgiveness is the realization that these monsters are PUPPETS of a wicked Dark spiritual Force that seek to destroy Goodness! Its a releasing Of Yourself from the Control of the destroyer. Its LETTING GO. And I didn't Say to JUST GET OVER IT!!!!!!!! Open your ears. We can agree to disagree - that's fine. But I know what I know. A rather LARGE KEY to Overcoming is FORGIVING. And we all reap what we sow. Its a universal Law set at Creation. Forgiveness doesn't mean you stay friends or Even in contact = you Still set your boundaries and Detach and live your Life as a wiser person - You learn from it - But you let go of the hatred and anger... the WEIGHTS - the CHAINS your attacker put on you. You know you've forgiven and TOTALLY FREE OF HIM when you could see him again in a random moment and NOT feel anger toward him, not want to scratch his eyes out -- But have NO FEELING toward him at all... Nothing but Pity. Then you've TRULY CONQUERED your enemy and not until then... The Hatred and Anger make you too much LIKE HIM. Think about it!!! I'm on the path of forgiveness -- that's where I'm headed! I'm Not even CLOSE to being there but that's my Goal. Please don't insult what I KNOW to be true with 'links'. Respect my wisdom as I do yours. We are supposed to be on the same side are we not??!! I'm allowed to have a different perspective of how to DEAL with this. Giving that link in response to what I said wasn't fair or Correct. We are ALL entitled to our own beliefs and opinions... That's what this Website is ALL ABOUT. There are people on this site that Understand what I'm saying. If you don't want to consider it fine... but do not just throw it in the Trash for everyone else. Do not taint it with links that don't Apply. Thank you. All Fired Up!!!
Nov 3 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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forgiveness

oh I totally understand what forgiveness is Tamra. I just do not believe in forgiving an unrepentant soul less cretin. NOPE. I can't forgive the unforgiveable. Nope. In my religion, the person has to ask you 3 times for forgiveness... and give a full accounting of what they did and why. Of course that will never happen so... ...they can all kiss my fat, white *** in Macy's window on a sale day. I will NEVER FORGIVE. N E V E R. But I have done this: http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/12/forgiving-one-who-deserves-forgiveness.html ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 4 - 6PM (Reply to #12)
quietude (not verified)
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forgivness

Two topics victims of abuse seem to be polarized on: Anger and Forgiveness. Just an observation... I feel like both are a personal choice, and whatever one chooses is right for them. But since we're swappin' opinions... I feel that my abuser violated me, over and over again. He is not truly sorry, he likely deep down is probably pretty satisfied with himself in knowing he 'took me down'. He has said he was sorry, and then turned around and committed the CRIME again. As far as forgiveness being for US, it doesn't do anything for me in THIS case, so it wouldn't be helpful to ME. He hasn't done anything to change, or make me feel he is a truly repentant person. I leave it up to God to forgive him, as his grace is infinite. But it does make you think, if forgiveness is an absolute, why is there a hell? I am forgiving myself...the one who was blind-sided by an evil force.
Nov 4 - 7PM (Reply to #13)
Kate (not verified)
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Hell... funny subject.

For the sake of keeping peace I won't go into a big debate over Hell... or Forgiveness as an absolute. We get the concept of an ever-burning Hell from our popular Christian teachers of the day don't we? But if you Research the Actual Greek definition of HELL (which the scriptures were written in the Greek and translated- It meant the GRAVE, Yes, a hole in the ground or a cave, not a fiery inferno... Now there IS a Lake of FIRE - but that is NOT HELL. And no one is going to the Lake from THIS LIFE -- ONLY TO THEIR GRAVE. There is a lot of controversy over this subject - I just look at the plain FACTS and definitions. We are Mortal... we return to DUST. The Genesis 3 account. Therefore we cannot BURN forever - Period. Mortal Die... they don't live on. Sorry if this offends - but if people would study - they would not be so ignorantly tricked by Christianity today... Its become BIG BUSINESS -- Believe me when I say I understand totally why people are turned Off to popular Christianity because its gotten poisoned... Its been twisted and perverted. Regarding Forgiveness according to the authority of the bible texts-- It is NOT an absolute. The GOD-Man told us - "If YOU'LL NOT FORGIVE Men their trespasses against YOU - My Father Will neither FORGIVE YOU YOUR trespasses." (Against Him) So... unless we are truly sorry to GOD for our violations against HIS LAWS and His ways which are HIGHER THAN OURS, and repentant toward Him as some of you require the Narcs to be toward You in order to get your forgiveness... I'm afraid some of us may be in trouble... "For with what measure you MEET - It will be measured to You again." (The measuring Stick you use to judge whether someone is worthy of your forgiveness, God will Use YOUR SAME Standard on you.) You are correct - God will deal with every Narc that has STOLEN and violated all of His Pure Laws. But Forgiveness is About RELEASING YOU... Not releasing THEM. I'm sorry if you all can't see what I'm trying to communicate... My apologies. Just stating what I read from a PROVEN set of documents and the intense research I've done. You decide what you believe... All Fired Up!!!
Nov 7 - 9AM (Reply to #17)
Chloe
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Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is a part of your own healing. I could never ever have healed with all the anger, hate, resentment, and deep seeded negative feelings and expect to feel better. Letting go, moving on, and "forgiving" are a part of the process. You don't have to forgive. If you forgive, you don't have to tell the person (he won't get it anyway), you can forgive in your heart by letting go and moving on. I had a lot of forgiving to do. I had to peel back the onion and begin forgiving with myself first. Then, one by one, I started forgiving my family for betraying me, my ex-husband for betraying, deceiving, demeaning, devaluing, humiliating, and punishing me, last, I had to forgive my children for not knowing how to respond to their father and sometimes hurting me in the process of their choices they made or didn't make. This took a lot of time and energy. But the energy I put forward was all positive. To help in the process, I exercised, meditated, got massages, did my angel cards (I believe in angels), and really took very good care of myself, but it wasn't easy at first and some days I doused myself with plenty of glasses of wine to sooth the pain. But, in time, it all came together. I also want to say, that while these narcissists can erase you from their life like you never existed, we, the people who truly loved them will never be able to erase what has happened to us or our families, but we will come out much stronger and once again be reacquainted with ourselves again, and there isn't anything better than that!!!! I can make my own decision and stick to it!!! :)
Nov 4 - 8PM (Reply to #14)
quietude (not verified)
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darn

I really was hoping my ex was going to be stuck twirling on a rotisserie by beelzebub himself (snap!). I do know what you're talking about, but it's more about how WE feel we need to manager our pain. It's part of our empowerment. I would not trample on the feelings of others as to what they should do in order to heal properly, only they know that. And EVERYONE has different beliefs, and they apply those beliefs to their individual situation. I think many of us here are educated and well read. I can debate for days, but won't go further on the subject here. Every religious person I know feels their religion IS the right one. And good for them.
Nov 5 - 10PM (Reply to #15)
Kate (not verified)
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Lol... Quietude...

LAUGHING :) Trust me I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!!!! But rest assured... They aint going to heaven!!!!!!! Well no one is - but anyway THEY AREN'T and we can just focus on that!!! Honestly, I believe they all will end up in the Lake of Fire so rest in that.. ON ME ;) And its FREE WILL that allows everyone to BELIEVE what they want too... However - Just because one 'believes' something doesn't make it the TRUTH. Surely we agree on that. A All Fired Up!!!
Nov 5 - 11PM (Reply to #16)
Barbara (not verified)
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no soul

how can something with no soul go anywhere? the mothership maybe... LOL ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 4 - 4PM (Reply to #10)
Chloe
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What happened to my comment here about forgiveness????

I posted a comment about "forgiveness" and it no longer is here. Does anyone know what happened?
Nov 4 - 7PM (Reply to #11)
Kate (not verified)
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No Chloe.. I never saw it

I hate when that happens! I'd love to see what you wrote... would you mind re-doing it?? All Fired Up!!!
Nov 3 - 10PM (Reply to #9)
Kate (not verified)
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Barbara

You are entitled to BELIEVE what you like... However, in My "belief system" told to be the Truth by Jesus Christ Himself - A PROVEN Human Being & Proven GOD-MAN - I am Only Forgiven by a HOLY (Perfectly Just, Perfectly Right & Perfectly Pure) GOD according to HOW I FORGIVE my neighbors in this testing ground called Life. YES my relational laws and boundaries were COMPLETELY Broken, violated and ON PURPOSE. I realize they will go Unrepentant for. However, I have done the same thing to The Creator throughout my life... The One who Made me and has longed for a LOVE relationship my whole life! I crossed his Relational BOUNDARIES, & LAWS. I can not Judge another and then on Judgment Day ASK for MERCY & Forgiveness for my Crimes against GOD when I've not given any to anyone else. In my Belief - We don't ask for something we haven't given first. Its sowing & reaping. Its shown in the simple agricultural Art of Farming. You cannot pluck an ear of Corn if you never planted any. I am NOT THERE yet I am STILL seeking - I'm still ANGRY many times a day! But I KNOW what I have to do and I am repentant toward God although Narc is NOT repentant toward me - BUT I AM NOT A NARC> So I would naturally be Repentant. He is in the DARKNESS and has been consumed by Evil... that's his issue between him & God when the time comes. I PITY him for that simple reality. It is a Fearful thing to Fall into the hands of the LIVING GOD. I do know that my Narc's future is TERRIBLE - God is my avenger and I choose to let HIM Avenge because He is NOT A MAN that He should LIE - But if He says He will do it - Its as GOOD AS FINISHED. THIS IS MY HERO. I wish you the Best!! I know you didn't mean to insult me with the Link - It just struck me at the wrong time today. I probably over reacted. Forgive me and I'm only asking once- Sorry! LOL -- I am sorry for all your horrible pain... I do Understand... we just have different approaches. All Fired Up!!!
Sep 11 - 11PM
NanC (not verified)
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Geez Chloe, your story

Geez Chloe, your story sounds like you could write a nice book, with your fancy wording (I'm just a country girl!). I had a number done on me too. Thank God he didn't completely brain wash me. He did have me pretty confused but I guess with our relationship being long distance for a good portion of the time, he didn't get to mentally abuse me on daily basis. (It still hurts really bad though) I think someday we are all going to look back and know that we made the right decision by leaving our N's. We need to all stop (especially me)being jealous of the "other woman" because she is is not our enemy or the reason we are no longer with the N, they are simply just their "next victim".
Oct 10 - 6AM (Reply to #4)
Chloe
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To NanC

Thank you for your kind words, all of you. I just want to comment on the "other woman." It wasn't long when my ex-husband had gone on the prowl (for a lack of a better way of putting it). I want to say that prior to my divorce, there was a man who entered my life (as a friend/confidante--later my life partner), who made me take a longer look at myself and realize my fragility, but long before him, I questioned, tollerated, cried, complained, voiced (tried to on deaf ears), screamed, prayed, and compensated for my loss of a partner, I not only felt, but was very alone, my family were extremely self-centered, and they too were deaf when it came to my words, (one scene of many) "I know, honey, just ignore him!" was what my mother would say, before she went back to the book she was reading. When I left (thrown out and locks changed), I was completely stunned and numb; going through the motions in an awakened-comatose state. My sons were all I thought about, night and day. They were (at the time), 16 and 19 years old. It was like pulling teeth for them to stay with me; (they had a beautiful home, their friends were there, and they didn't want to upset their apple cart). I was literally devastated. I remember my very expensive divorce attorney stating, "In all my years in this business, I have never had a person across my desk who didn't want a divorce---until I met you." Divorce? Out of the question. My parents were divorced when I was six years old. I didn't want that for my sons. I reeked family, I wanted a family, and for twenty-three years, I fought for that family, but while doing that, all I was was the DO-ER FOR THEM! There was no intimacy, only anger and discust at me for being me; this is what my sons would see as an example of a husband. Was I being fair to even my sons, letting them witness this? This was not the way a woman and man should live. I was always questioning and thinking and at times (most often), not dealing. Well, finally, the divorce was inevitable. During this time, I had to gather any kind of information that I could about our finances. I found a briefcase of my husband's, my son let me in for some things of mine when dad was not home. In that briefcase I found a letter to me from him, in-between his legal paper work. When I began to read it I was totally mystified, as it was the first time that I had ever seen that letter (to me). I was puzzled, for my husband had written me two letters since our split; both being very business like with bullets (like I was his client), never before had he ever written anything to me with such emotion, nor show it. Then suddenly, it dawned on me. I was informed from my own son, that the attorney my husband had, had told him that she had a friend, who too was going through a divorce (from a nut-case), and who had a lot of money, yaddi-yadda-yadda, and when this was all over, she wanted to fix him up. Putting two and two together, and while not knowing about Narcissism, but intuitively knowing it, I realized that my ex-husband wrote that letter to me, never ever intending on giving it to me, but for the own sake of his attorney to see, so she could get a glimpse of this "wounded soul of a man" who was doing everything to keep his wife. He was making me look like this wicked woman who left him and his sons for another man, and him the loving, doting, caring, broken-hearted husband/father who was simply shattered over the loss of his family, "victimization and projection on to me." After reading that letter, I took a big red magic marker and wrote: "IT WOULD HAVE BEEN NICE IF YOU HAD GIVEN THIS TO ME!!!" He went WILD! He Raged like no tomorrow. Of course he did, because what I said had credence---he was caught. Well, my ex-husband was indeed fixed up. And in-between that "fix-up" was one woman who was made to look like a crazy maniac----ME. He did everything, everything in his power to destroy me and make me look like the looney tune that he really was, even having my own family as his allies. It was the most painful time in my life. He did everything from blocking me from , hanging up on me (like I was an animal), in front of his family, friends, and children to hiring a detective to follow me around, meanwhile, he refused to give me my clothing for three years, while he let it sit in the moldy basement unprotected. Soon after, girlfriend became wife #2. "Say hello to your stepmother," with no care about their feelings what-so-ever. I was outraged! My sons were starting to see the much bigger picture (after the storm). He had already changed the locks on them while they were in college, because he didn't want them coming home and having parties while he was away on business--meaning that now they didn't have the home they grew up in, they were always with me throughout, however, I had moved to the state where they went to college, and my house was under construction over broken water pipes. Now, dear ol' daddy and his new wife took up home at her house (longer story for another chapter), and rapidly, "her family," suddenly became his, as if he implanted the seed, his "real" family was left behind to only be around when he needed them---and I was better than dead, I simply never existed; "If your mother calls you in my presence, don't you dare pick up that phone!" is what he would say to my sons, even seven years later. So, there she was, Wife #2; arrogant as him, puffed up with all she had, and going through the motions like she was the "true" one and only. Today, he is unraveling ever so slowly. His mask is drooping. I hear that she is noticing things that she was blind to see before. Already she hates members of his family. And ironically, my very dear friends live next door to them. I learned from them that dear ol' ex-husband was suing them about property issues---he lost! He was literally raging like a maniac to the neighbors about nonsense; maybe he wasn't comfortable YET to rage in front of his "new" family. So, today, she is going through the motions. He is the camilian, doing things for her and for her family. He flies to visit her daughter's dorm, yet never once spent time nor even saw his own son's dorms. After my beloved father-in-law passed away, and I was not welcome to the wake; "while your prayers are welcome, your presence is NOT!" And his own family (mine for 23 years) treated me "less than," I suddenly felt FREE. I went to the church to pay my respects to grandpa, walked out, and never looked back. Today, I feel sorry for wife #2 because, like me, she is in the house of mirrors, a maze with reflections everywhere she goes, and unless she finds the exit, she is lost in that lonely life of being truly unloved, sucked dry with no reflection of thy own self.
Aug 28 - 2PM
lady_in_dubai
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Dear Chloe

Hi there I just read your story. I really like the way you express what happened, especially the last part, a wolf in man's clothing. That's what they are. Thanks dear Chloe for sharing how you dealt with the aftermath, it helps a lot.