childbearing years...
childbearing years...
Do any of you feel like your ex took your childbearing years? Mine talked from day one about how important children were to him, and how cute ours would be. We were married for 5 years, and he'd always buy the cutest kiddie stuff for his friend's kids, even if they lived in other countries--he'd mail all sorts of gorgeous baby clothes to friends. He talked nonstop about how so and so had had a baby. But during that time he actually never said when he wanted them. Whenever I said, ok, shall we think about kids in a year or two, he joked that we were both too childish ourselves (we were pretty goofy, and he encouraged that...now I realise he was a child himself) and left it at that. But he often said that he wanted babies with me, and that it would be so wonderful. Well, I turned 35 late last year and told him I was ready finally...which was a big deal for me given that I have historically focused on my career, and been a bit scared of being a mother. Then suddenly he told me that "we had problems". When it all ended this year, I felt like he took my childbearing years. OK,women have babies well into their 40s, but I feel like I will never love again, and feel sick to my stomach that I SO wanted to have HIS children (I've never bee a broody type, though have always loved kids), and that that will never happen. I feel like he has taken my sanity, my dream of a family, my entire future.
Have any of you gone through this?
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