Briseis & morty, it's that narc soul-rejection that still gives me anxiety attacks...
Briseis & morty, it's that narc soul-rejection that still gives me anxiety attacks...
And as I was typing this I was crying...
(I got interrupted by a moving sale visitor an hour ago when I typed this up)
When I get myself wrapped up in busy-ness...then I keep the panic attacks at bay.
Like today, I had another moving sale...kept me distracted.
But when I have a moment to breathe (like an hour ago) and I think of how I thought he loved me...and then the D&D took me by total surprise...and then how he broke up with me in 35 minutes over the phone...and didn't even let me say anything or respond...practically hung up on me.
In those moments...like this moment....the D&D is still fresh...like a mark on me.
I feel so unlovable and...marked. Like the discard put a big 'D' on my chest, and I can't get it off. Like I'm ditched goods. Like something is defective in me.
I know my self-esteem was already an issue pre-narc, but now, post-narc, it's a huge issue...
Being rejected in this way...the pain...the hurt...it never seems to fade for me.
There was no closure, which I know always has to be an inside job for us narced folk.
It's hard for me, because I'm a big communicator. I'm an Aquarius...an air sign... Communication is my thing. And my moon sign is Cancer - communicating FEELINGS is my forte. To not have had the opportunity to do that...to have had that part of me 'stopped' by him...it's awful for me.
When I re-connect to this soul-rejected feeling...it tightens my chest, I get a knot in my gut...it makes me physically ill. And I have this deep feeling of shame. Shame to my core that I feel like I can't wash off.
I know that it's tapping into experiences from when I was a kid, with my BPD mom...but it only seems to get triggered by thinking about how he threw me away.
Like it did right when I was typing this.
I don't know how to make that pain, that soul-rejected feeling...go away.
It's awful.
Any guidance you can offer about how to counter these thoughts & physical reactions would be great.
Hugs of thanks,
Leah
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