Brainwashing techniques of the narc

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#1 Aug 16 - 4AM

Scoop

Brainwashing techniques of the narc

The ablity of the psychopath to sail through all of their chaos so causally is astounding , but to them it is just business . They care not one iota that they left others in missery , hearthbreak , financial turmoil and psychological ruin. This is why psychopaths spend their entire lives looking for the likes of you and others like you , you are the most glittering prize of all . But as soon as they steal from you , the thrill of the hunt ends for them and they are off to destroy or to use someone else . It is and endless cycle which for all their scams and tricks are doomed to fail . They can never fill that gap missing in them . That empty void inside the psychopath was you for a while . You where one of the many who got the same treatment ...Thomas Sheridan
Aint that the truth !

Here are some abusive brainwashing techniques that the psychopaths uses to keep you in a state of trance while he feeds form you .
http://www.heart-2-heart.ca/men/page3.htm

Scoop xx

#2 Aug 31 - 2PM

Sunafterrain

Scoop

I always look forward to your posts. Seems something new every time you do. I think I relate most to your posts because my ex was definitely a full blown psychopath too. Although with behaviors, they really aren't that much different, are they? The Cluster B's or as I read on another forum, The Cluster Fucks :)

#3 Aug 31 - 10PM (Reply to #9)

foreverfun1

lol cluster B mental

lol cluster B mental illnesses r cluster fucks i like that one!

#4 Aug 31 - 1PM

needing2know

Looked at the post heart2heart,

OMG! my ex was a cop, and he worked in a prison! He knows what he is doing, I use to tell him all the time I was not one of his inmates!

#5 Aug 16 - 2PM

badjer

Wow. Amazing article, I

Wow. Amazing article, I identified many of my ex's traits in that. No wonder the scars take so long to heal. I am going to print this off and keep it in my purse to read when I feel low. Thank you XXXX

#6 Aug 16 - 9AM

Layla

Great article!

I am not feeling well today- who gets a "cold" in the summertime, anyway? Oh, yeah, I DO! Haha! Anyway, it actually was upsetting reading this, it made me feel sad and angry at the abuser, because he did all of this. I need these reminders of his awfulness, because it is a gentle reminder to myself that is is NOT ME, it's him. Thank you Scoop. : )

#7 Aug 16 - 1PM (Reply to #4)

Scoop

Aww layla getting a cold and

Aww layla getting a cold and recovering from narc abuse just sucks , i hope you feel better soon . Part of the brainwashing is the daily twisting blame for their behaviour on to you , they set up this air of superiority about them which is so over the top that we have to believe we are in the wrong . I came from a family where my elder brother was golden boy who could do nothing wrong (i mean i love him but through gritted teeth lol ) so i was always getting the blame for things as a child being the naughty little sister and i took that into adulthood , i was very willing to take blame .. it wasnt untill the d&d started and i was slap bang in the cycle of abuse did i begin to realize he would start arguments late at night but in the morning he would be the first to say sorry , i realize it was actualy him , i would have been ready to say sorry if he hadnt got in first , so he knew what he was doing but still wanted to keep me around . when the full blown D&D started there was no sorry from him and i reverted back to type taking the blame and being sorry that i was ever born . this kind of vrain washing breaks you down , bit by bit and even if you know at first what is going on and fight against it , over time and with the narc doing the push pull bollocks most people i believe would go under . The good news is in just a very short time after NC reality resurfaces and you can step back and see what has happened with clarity .. and then get ready for the RAGE , the clothes ripping , hair pulling rage .. ! Scoop x

#8 Aug 16 - 2PM (Reply to #5)

badjer

I am waiting for the rage and

I am waiting for the rage and I have flashes of it but, after 10 months, not enough. Mine too paid lip service to apologies but they were always lukewarm and without real substance, without the basic tenets of real remorse. I still blame myself for things breaking down but then travelling home tonight I thought "STOP!". You walked because he was cruel. He could have made it up to you, he DIDN'T. he game-played, then he expected you to forgive and forget it all and when you showed backbone, he bolted. He is a BULLY and a COWARD and they all are. I am *trying* to take pride in knowing he was out of his depth with me and knew he couldn't sustain the abuse and control indefinitely. Strength and courage and my 'gut' instinct were on my side! Thank you God XXX

#9 Aug 16 - 8AM

ruby01 (not verified)

"Just Business"

So true. When you look at it in this way, it helps you to not take it so personally. It's their way of life.

#10 Aug 16 - 7AM

Nemesis

Thanks Scoop

Thanks for posting this scoop. It's very well written and provides reassurance that we were definately not imagining those things when they were happening to us and more confirmation of the kind of person we have been dealing with. Nemesis xxx

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