Blindsided..

From what I have read in a lot in these threads, is that narcs kind of recycle their network of relationships. When I met my exN, he was in a relationship with his high school sweatheart (they have 2 children together). I see now that I, and maybe a couple of other females, have been the in between for him when things go sour for them. He and I were exclusive for one year before he D&D me last month and towards the end I suspected he got back with his old sweetheart. In the beginning I was assured by him and a family member that he was done with her for good.

However, my suspicion was right. Pictures were posted of them together (as a couple...no one else was in the pics), popped up on Facebook at his familiy Thanksgiving thru another family members' page (my supposedly best friend/his cousin). I was totally taken off guard by that. I feel humiliated, made a fool of, and embarrased because I was the one he was with at the last family event. I was close to his family (I have known many of them for 15+ years), but no one in the family gave me fair warning that I was only temporary supply. So now I feel stupid. Of course he played the song how much he disliked her, the whole talk bad about her spill...yet here we are.

It appears common for these narcs to do the shuffle dance with their supplies, but I want to get past this. It was very hurtful to see them posted up like that. But I can't say this was our first dance and I knew in my GUT (in the beginning) that he wasn't over her. He took up with me twice before when they were on the outs. Why don't narcs just stick it out with the one they truly love? Why all the back and forth pretending with someone else?