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#1 Aug 19 - 11AM
malloryforest
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Barbara

Hi Barbara. I sent off a blow by blow of the weekend to my lawyer. I have a question for you. You know all the lovely details of my case. Do you think I should fight for sole custody. I would allow my STBXNH to continue to visit the kids in my state, but I want to have ultimate say in the decisions governing the well being of the children. What do you think? It will become an ugly divorce if I pursue this road. He will get a lawyer, and he will fight me on this. Before I enter this struggle, i am wanting to know if it is a no win battle.

Aug 20 - 9AM
Fawn
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Sole Custody

Yes Mallory, you should go for sole custody. Get a bulldog lawyer and give Him/her all of your evidence of your narc's outrageous behavior. My divorce will be final in a week. It has been a long and painful process, but having sole custody makes me feel that I do have ultimate control over my kids' lives. He has screwed up so much with the older kids, it will take a lot of time, therapy, and work for them to forgive him. I have heard that he is really miserable and looks horrible now that the divorce is actually real. I feel sorry for him sometimes, just a little. Mallory, a lot will depend on the judge you get. You don't have any control over that, just keep your documentation going and keep the focus on your kids. Dcrutche
Aug 19 - 3PM
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

Sole custody? ABSOLUTELY!! FIGHT FOR IT!!! Your psycho needs to be in a cage. No matter WHAT your lawyer says (next best thing would be SUPERVISED VISITATION) ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Aug 20 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
quietude (not verified)
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mallory

I'm living proof that sole custody and supervised visitation is possible. My ex (long time ago) was physically abusive, in the get drunk pushing/shoving kind of way, which actually only happened a couple of times, made some threats that I recorded over the phone after I left, got caught in a lie to the judge about being busted for pot once. The judge could sense I was scared to death for my son, I'm sure. I'm not comparing, every case is different, but you've got a mountain of evidence that should bury him. You have to keep your fighting armor on, be professional, determined, don't waver. The judge will see a caring mother concerned for her kids, and on the other side, an erratic nutjob who may even do you the big favor of losing it in court. Be your own, and your child's own best advocate and go for it! My lawyer told me only criminals get supervised visitation, I didn't listen to her nay-saying. Be calm and respectful in court, conservative hair, make-up and suit. Be prepared...you can do this!
Aug 20 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
malloryforest
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Thank you all

Thank you all. I have just sent and email off to my lawyer to set up an appt. to talk about sole custody. You folks are inspirational. I don't want to keep the kids from their father. I do want to be my children's own best advocate. STBXNH has shown himself to be erratic, self serving, an incapable of putting his children's needs before his own. I am going to fight for this!
Aug 20 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
malloryforest
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Thank you all

Thank you all. I have just sent and email off to my lawyer to set up an appt. to talk about sole custody. You folks are inspirational. I don't want to keep the kids from their father. I do want to be my children's own best advocate. STBXNH has shown himself to be erratic, self serving, an incapable of putting his children's needs before his own. I am going to fight for this!