Bad day

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#1 Aug 13 - 9AM
Nicole
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Bad day

Hi Everyone,

Today is a bad day. After almost 8 months I can't believe I can still get so low. I haven't had any contact - he hasn't tried. He's gone. I just struggle today with not feeling good enough. Had I been good enough, he would have stayed, married me, been faithful, been honest...on and on. It's hard. I wish I had more confidence in myself. I'm working on it, but unfortunately I believed his words more than my gut, and I still do at times.

Hope you're all well.

Aug 13 - 2PM
Barbara (not verified)
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Nicole.

talk to your therapist about this. his words are toxic bombs implanted in your mind to keep you down. DO NOT GIVE WEIGHT TO THE WORDS OF AN EMOTIONAL TERRORIST WHO YOU DON'T RESPECT. (listen to last night's BlogTalkRadio show about that: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/allabouthim) These Narcs LIE LIKE THEY BREATHE!!! They even lie where it would be much easier to simply tell the truth... and for the HELL OF IT!!!! You must be a pretty wonderful person for a Narc (who lives in opposite world) to be so desperate to bring you down. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Aug 13 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
quietude (not verified)
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nicole

It might be good to write some absolute truths down and keep it where you can see it every day. Things like: *IT'S NOT MY FAULT. *HIS LEAVING HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING WRONG I DID. *HE IS A VERY SICK PERSON WHO WILL DO THIS TO ANY WOMAN HE (HAS) OR WILL BECOME INVOLVED WITH. I AM NOT UNIQUE IN MY VICTIMIZATION. *I MUST BE WONDERFUL AND HAVE DESIREABLE QUALITIES FOR HIM TO TARGET ME. *I WILL FOCUS ON MYSELF NOW, AND KNOW THAT I AM FORTUNATE HE'S OUT OF MY LIFE. If you can run tapes like these in your head all the time, they eventually take over a lot of the CRAP he planted in there. Keep moving forward...!
Aug 13 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
Nicole
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Barbara

Thanks, Barbara. I really appreciate the support. I'm going to list listen to that now.
Aug 13 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
Jane (not verified)
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Nicole, I've been in your

Nicole, I've been in your place many times before. Listen to Barbara's advice, she knows what she is talking about. And remember, these people make themselves feel better by bringing us down, projecting all the blame on us. I know it is hard, but it does get easier. Hang in there! Jane http://sadlynomore.blogspot.com