Back to therapy for ME

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#1 Aug 5 - 5PM
onwithmylife
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Back to therapy for ME

Hi everyone,, went back to therapy starting today and am glad to have found a nice guy for therapy at a low cost, cause i have no insurance and no job yet. I told the therapist about what a Godsend this site is and he thought that was great to have support system of women and men in similar situations talking it out.anyway brought a photo of me and narc and had him read some letters from narc to me, all he could say is he is a HATEFUL man, just kept shaking his head. we talked more and he said we are going to close this chapter of your life once and for all, it has been over 2 years out, and I said to him, right on. we meet again August 15, will keep you posted on my progress. I told the therapist I want the day to come when I throw out all the letters and his photo, I feel better today, in spite of my extreme loneliness where i am living, thanks for reading this.Strange I was reading an old letter to me from the Narc and he used the "I" word more times than I could count," I was making plans for us," never found the' us' or' we' words in his letter.

Aug 7 - 12PM
jen79
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same for me!!!!

I met him on august 8th 2008, tomorrow it will be exactly 3 years ago. Can you imagine, 3 years in pain, since honeymoon lasted only about a week lool. This year no more. I didnt post this here yet, I had closure with him. A decent one, with love and respect, as much as he is capable of, and it was the best I could ever get from him and I am at peace now with it all, it was one week ago, I cried my eyes out, but now one week later I am feeling already so much better, as if this has happened a long time ago. I guess I had enough, and I had my closure. He is blocked again and I am not intending to ever break NC again, cause never ever will I have a better closure than I had now, and I dont wanna destroy that. So he has now a big project coming for him that will opccupy his mind for at least a year or maybe more and he will work together with a women on a big tv show coming (you all will get to see him then, big big movie stars playing in it) and I know he totally loves this women, he left his gf for her. So I know I will have alot of time now to recover. And you know what, the key is not to hate them, it is to love ourselves just more than them, thats it. I dont hate him, nor did I stop loving him now, I just started to love myself, maybe the first time in my life, and I dont work against me anymore, I try to balance logic and emotions and let them work together, the logic is protecting my vulnerable emotional part now, I am doing good things for myself every day, to make me feel good. Feeling good is now my highest priority. And its working, new memories, filled up with positive energy, new one, so I dont need to hang on old times, that were so much better, and never existed anyway but on my mind. So I am happy for you. Lets do this together, me too, 2 years out now, like you. Warm hugs to you!!!!
Aug 7 - 11AM
gettinbetter
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Good for you. I think you

Good for you. I think you much like myself have had a hard time breaking away from repetitive thoughts about them eventhough we haven't had contact for a long time. I think for me having too much time sometimes and allowing myself to indulge in happy thoughts of him kept me "in it" so to speak. I am doing much better and don't come to the board so much anymore. I am getting out with friends. Spending time shopping which I love. When I was still in the thick of things I had zero interest in shopping. I could barely force myself to get out. I think for you it must really be hard with no job and a move to a new place with few friends doesn't leave much else to do but think about the narc. Hopefully you can fiind some new hobbies or interests that will occupy you and that together with the therapy should put this all behind you Good luck
Aug 6 - 8PM
Done sourcing
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Therapy probably saved my

Therapy probably saved my sanity, it was tough going for awhile last year and my Therapist was always there for me. I am so glad for you that you are taking healthy steps forward, and I know you will reap the rewards of being willing to work towards your complete freedom from this chapter in your life. ds
Aug 6 - 6PM
Journey
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Glad you found a good

Glad you found a good inexpensive therapist! I'm sure your loneliness has a lot to do with the 2 yrs+ factor of still thinking about narc so much. I know for myself when I'm busy with friends I don't think about exN nearly as much. I wish you lived closer - I'd hang out with you lol! xo

Journey on...

Aug 6 - 12PM
Hunter
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Money well spent, things will

Money well spent, things will fall into place you will see! Good Vibes! Hunter
Aug 5 - 6PM
clover
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therapy

I'm back in therapy as well after my NARC attack. I am just trying to deal with why I felt I deserved such treatment from someone. Why I thought that it was okay for someone to hurt me/treat me like he did. I am learning how to spot a NARC so I won't get caught by one again. But there are underlying issues related to my low self esteem and the fact that for some reason I allowed someone to treat me that way. I am working on that. I deserve so much better. You deserve so much better. We all do. I would NEVER treat someone the way my NARC did me. That says it all.