Back to day one of NC...

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#1 Feb 11 - 7PM
josiekl
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Back to day one of NC...

I can honesty say now I believe why NC is so important and the only way to move forward.
I was devastated a little over a week ago when I was discarded for a new supply. It was a horrible week emotionally. I felt like I could barely function, depressed, constant crying.
I had been NC and went out of town to visit family last weekend. Friday, I was still a wreck, Sat morning still feeling very depressed and trying so hard to enjoy my visit. Then there it was...the text messages started Sat afternoon & I ignored them. Apparently he went by my house and I wasn't there but my car was so he said he assumed I was out with someone. He tried calling and I didn't answer.
I headed home on Sunday, more calls and texts. Telling me he went by my house again and couldn't believe I went out of town with another man. He was completely beside himself. Then it happened, he sent a text that made me so angry I finally responded, ugh! Had the nerve to tell me if I had passed this "test", he had planned to take me out for Valentines Day, spoil me, flowers, cards, whole nine yards! This man NEVER bought me a single card, flowers, birthday gift, NOTHING! In fact he was a complete jerk and didnt speak to me last VDay.
I am so aggravated at myself for responding. I have to say the NC was a great feeling, especially knowing his new supply has hit the road. Today has been fairly quiet as he knows I am back home, and my last response was that i have moved on and to leave me alone. I called him out for stalking my house, told him he is not welcome here and if he shows up i will call the police.
I am not allowing myself to view it as a setback but a learning experience.
I know now that I must remain NC and that any communication on my part will only leave me angry and frustrated. Nothing good whatsoever can come from contact with him. This man is twisted and nothing or no one can fix him.

Feb 13 - 10AM
Garden
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Get him out of your phone.

Feb 12 - 11AM
Deidre99
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He's just a narc, being a

Feb 11 - 8PM
leslieisback
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I am so sorry. Let me know if