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#1 May 25 - 9PM
Fawn
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Babysitter

This was the first weekend that the N had the kids in over three weeks. I was ready for a break, but worried too. The older ones stayed with friends all weekend, but the youngest was with him.

I thought that he was keeping it on the straight & narrow because of the contempt charges that I have against him for having the babysitter spend the night with the youngest there back in April. WRONG! This jerk had her take care of my 5-year-old while he went to an AA meeting.

My five-year old was acting very strange when she came home from her dad's. Very, very whiny, emotional, screaming, hitting. God this sucks trying to transition them back into reality. It is so confusing for her! I was SO PISSED at their behavior when they came back. When they are with their dad, he doesn't even see them.

My 12-year-old son has a HUGE bruise and blood blister on his arm from some kid shooting him at close range with an air soft gun. It happened on Wednesday when he went straight to his dad's after school from his dad's neighborhood. My son didn't tell me about it because he knew I would be upset. He went all weekend with this huge bruise and he said that his dad saw it and asked him about it. This is an especially volatile topic because his dad let him spend his own money on an air rifle against my wishes earlier this year. What an idiot!

I took pictures of the wound and sent an email to him asking him WTF? I am documenting this for my attorney, along with my five-year-old's totally wild behavior and her toileting accidents, which she only has when she encounters the babysitter.

I my contempt case, I am asking for daytime visitation only. I wish that the judge would make him take parenting classes.

May 25 - 9PM
Barbara (not verified)
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he is the one who need to be "babysat"

I smell you pushing for Supervised visitation only!! and in CLEAR writing that the chick he's screwing may NOT 'babysit' them. Sheesh - it's called PARENTING dude! Supervised supervised supervised! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
May 26 - 2AM (Reply to #2)
Fawn
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Free babysitter

I swear that he is using her for babysitting. She has spent a lot more time taking care of my five-year-old than I thought-- driving her places, watching her while mr wonderful goes on talks smack at AA meetings, etc. I am kind of finding it amusing, if it wasn't screwing with my kids' heads so much. He feels entitled to have someone else babysit his kids when he has visitation, and thinks that this is acceptable. Why is she doing it ? I don't get that. They don't go places together like a grown-up couple. She takes care of his kids on the rare occasion that be has them, stays at his apartment, while he goes canoeing, to AA meetings, to concerts, etc. What a crap life! Man, he is SO selfish! Unbelievable!
May 26 - 8PM (Reply to #5)
malloryforest
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Dcrutche

Babysitter will do anything to stay in his good graces. She probably thinks she is showing him how supportive and a good woman she is for taking care of your kids. She doesn't realize how he is using her. She is a sad, pathetic person. I can't believe he thinks it is appropriate to let the little babysitter / whore watch your children during visitation. I really understand what you are feeling, and the confusion it must be causing your children. My STBXNH would love to have kids come visit, and his GF take care of them! Boy, talk about having your cake and eating it too. He could have GF, have kids, but not have to take care of kids. She would be more than glad to do the work, to show him what a fabulous woman she was. The whole thing makes me sick. This past weekend my STBXNH came to visit kids. THe first day he spent 3 hours watching a car race, and the second day he didn't show up to the house until 1:00 in the afternoon. Then proceeded to watch another car race for two hours. What quality time! Whenever I was out of the house, he was watching the TV. When I get home, he plays super dad. They don't want to do the real parenting work. Too hard, too inconvenient. They want to just show up and be fun dad when it fits in their schedule.
May 26 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
Fawn
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Parent of the year award

Thanks for the support. Today my attorney said that I should be documenting every time that the babysitter is with the kids. It will be "at his peril" with the judge since we are still married. So, he is just digging himself a deeper hole. That made me feel better. You were right Barbara, he will be in trouble for that lack of judgement. My attorney also said that I dont have to let my son go to the music festival during my visitation time, that I can make the N pick him up at 6:00 on Friday like normal. Not sure what to to about this one. My gut tells me to enforce the regular visitation. I dont know what his plan is, but my fear is that it involves the babysitter. You are right Mallory, she is trying so hard to accomodate him and help him out with his rough life as a single dad. What a bunch of crap he is feeding her. When is she going to figure this out? Can she really be that dumb that she would babysit his Kid while he goes off & does whatever the hell he wants? I found out today that he hasn't paid his taxes yet. He hasn't changed his address from this one yet. I gave the IRS a little help with his current address and phone numbers. I font know what he is trying to pull here, but I hope I an not liable. I filed separately, which was in my legal right, according my attorney
May 26 - 10PM (Reply to #7)
Barbara (not verified)
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taxes

if he tries to stick you with taxes? File for something called "INNOCENT SPOUSE RELIEF" - the IRS.gov site should have something on it. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
May 26 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
malloryforest
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Dcrutche

Babysitter will do anything to stay in his good graces. She probably thinks she is showing him how supportive and a good woman she is for taking care of your kids. She doesn't realize how he is using her. She is a sad, pathetic person. I can't believe he thinks it is appropriate to let the little babysitter / whore watch your children during visitation. I really understand what you are feeling, and the confusion it must be causing your children. My STBXNH would love to have kids come visit, and his GF take care of them! Boy, talk about having your cake and eating it too. He could have GF, have kids, but not have to take care of kids. She would be more than glad to do the work, to show him what a fabulous woman she was. The whole thing makes me sick. This past weekend my STBXNH came to visit kids. THe first day he spent 3 hours watching a car race, and the second day he didn't show up to the house until 1:00 in the afternoon. Then proceeded to watch another car race for two hours. What quality time! Whenever I was out of the house, he was watching the TV. When I get home, he plays super dad. They don't want to do the real parenting work. Too hard, too inconvenient. They want to just show up and be fun dad when it fits in their schedule.
May 26 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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again...

did you know I can see into the future? And I smell HEAVILY SUPERVISED VISITATION in his future. LOL... ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/