Are any of you bothered by how it ended/what the narc thinks of you?
Are any of you bothered by how it ended/what the narc thinks of you?
It still kinda bothers me the way it all went down with my ex-narc...
We had kind of morphed into friends vs. seeing where things would go the last time we 'got back together'...
I knew and he knew(that I knew) that he had an open pof(plenty of fish) account. I had asked him about it during the middle of that last 'got back together' era...and he said he hardly checked it.
The night I lost my sh*t on him kinda went as follows.
Of course I'd check that plenty of fish account every so often to see if he had been on it, if he was it would say 'online today!'...I secretly wanted to look one day and see that his account had been closed. Wishful thinking at the time. The night it ended he had been texting me with one hand "how was your day!??" and with his other hand he was updating his dating profile that evening which already stated that he was 'seeking long term' and that he was ready to settle down with the right woman. He posted public photos of himself and everything, which was odd for him to be so 'public'.
The night I ended it I called him and calmly said "I can't do this right now, we should just be friends, the whole dating site thing is a bit much, figure your sh*t out and then give me a call"... he was all "ok, bye!"
Then we exchanged some texts>>>
Me: "Last txt from me. I've changed my mind. We are over, for good. I never want to see or hear from you again."
Him: "Sorry to hear that, but I'll respect your wishes"
Me: "You're a f*cking joke"
Him: "F*ck off, you never asked if I was on the site and I told you I wasn't, you said it, last text, keep your word!"
(At this point he's pulling a mind f*ck to see if I'll admit creeping his profile, I was too angry that night to care that he had 'caught me' snooping, which would re-iterate my paranoia)
Me: "Whatever, nice pics loser. Way to wheel 'em in!"
(No reply.)
Either way, clearly I was obsessed.
During our relationship(way before the above), I hardly contacted him, one time I did call him at work from the work phone and mentioned that my cell was dying.
Later that night on his FB some old girlfriend of his had recently tagged an old photo of him and her.
We had this huge fight that night about him saying I was too 'f*cked up' about facebook and paranoid.
That I had begun to show signs of being insecure again.
So it bothers me still. What he thinks of me still bothers me.
Ladies, what are your thoughts on this.....?
Still bothered
The way it ended....
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what they think about us
Unhealthy relationships end in unhealthy ways...
why does it bother us
chickon2
Jen79
Ah! the perfume panties??
thats what I say chickon
Chickon2 and Jen 79
blueeyes
GOTCHA jen79
the way it ended
It's a sick and twisted
stay~strong
How it ended and caring about what he thinks?
I didn't like the way mine
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
Wow! Those words really struck....
"He can wallow in self-pity
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
And he can get cheapo teething toys from me!
Also, FNL....
I think they're callous mindfuckers
Excuse the profanity!
Michelle115