Any advice, please?

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#1 Oct 6 - 11AM
Dallas
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Any advice, please?

Where to start?

In my first full month of complete NC, I felt quite a bit better in some ways than I do right now at 68 (yes!!) days...

I chalk a lot of that first month feeling up to giddy RELIEF at being out from under "The Mouth"...the N's verbal and emotional abuse, the lies, the criticisms, the contradictory bullshit... the general SPEW of a disordered...Also, it was FREEDOM from the constant anxiety my involvement with the N brought, that I wasn't completely able to realize I was living in until I experienced the ABSENCE of it...Also, so much more time on my hands after living and doing for HIM 24/7...

At this point, I must admit I was hoping to feel just a teeny bit better...

But now I find myself still working on banishing "The Mouth" from my "internal loop"...His work and sterling contribution to my life lives on and I DON'T LIKE IT! I feel WALLOPED by the full realization of what I was really involved in, who I was involved with, and want to know how to move forward in healing...

One basic thing I'm finding that helps is that with time, the routines I had with him in my life have been replaced with what are becoming my new routines...I'm again establishing patterns of my days without this toxic person in them...and some days are pretty damn good!

But my concentration still feels pretty shot, I can't read through a book yet like I used to, and just feeling a bit stymied and low energy here...I know I also need to let time take it's sweet course, but I'm wondering from others who may have felt similarly, what did you do when you felt kind of stuck and in a bit of a funk along your journey?

Oct 10 - 3AM
Leigh123
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I'm the same. Three weeks of

Oct 11 - 8PM (Reply to #13)
Done sourcing
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If you are going to do LC, at

Oct 9 - 10AM
spinning
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Dallas, my sticking point

spinning

Oct 11 - 5PM (Reply to #11)
Dallas
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Thanks (not)Spinning

Oct 11 - 3PM (Reply to #10)
HappyToForget
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This works

Oct 9 - 10AM
Used
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But my concentration still

Oct 7 - 6AM
SECM1968
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Me too

Oct 9 - 8AM (Reply to #7)
Dallas
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Thanks SECM1968

Oct 6 - 12PM
Goldie
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Time

Oct 6 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
talktothehand
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Dallas

Oct 11 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
ItsFinallytime
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Hi Dallas. Goldie has heard

Oct 9 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
Dallas
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Thanks Goldie and Talktothehand

Oct 9 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
Janie53
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Dallas