And he's back...
And he's back...
After not hearing from him for 4 weeks (except for the random show-up-at-my-work and give me a Valentine's gift and an email explaining that I wouldn't hear from for another 2 weeks because he was focused on the bar exam but would like to discuss where our marriage is headed because he now had new “tools” from his therapist), he’s back.
He’s back and he’s pretending that nothing ever happened. He came to see the baby & pick her up. (I should mention that he didn’t ask about her once in the month I didn’t hear from her). He walked in like nothing was going on, and laid down on my bed for 30 minutes. By himself. Just laying there with his eyes open. Very weird. I didn’t know what to do. I hate to rile him up when the baby is around so I just went and busied myself until he left. Weird.
He then sent me a text message the next day asking if he could come over and have dinner and after we got the baby to bed we could rent a movie. I filed for divorce in November and we haven’t spoken in a month. So I replied that he couldn’t come over and that he needed to accept that the relationship is over.
He then sent me a text message on Sunday asking if he could pick her up at noon. I told him that I was going to a shower but I’d meet him after with her (at starbucks – no coming over anymore to lounge around/pick her up). I dropped her off and actually felt embarrassed that I was married to him. I should mention that he looks like he’s lost a good deal of weight, now has an ugly beard, and was dressed horribly. I wanted to throw up – how did I ever find him attractive?
As much as I would like to be completely no-contact it’s almost impossible with a baby. So, I wrote him about a month ago saying that we would only speak through email/text message about the baby. But he doesn’t listen. I guess it’s the new “tools” that he got from his therapist. I just want him to go away.
Any advice on how to better handle?? I don’t feel like I am handling this well. I don’t know if I should be even more direct that it is over??
Staring at the ceiling? Gee
t takes a very smart women to manage a stupid man.
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