Am I over-reacting or have I've been Narced from the same side?

Some of you may remember I had a problem with a "female" I thought may have been hitting on me...this is what has transpired since. Whether you know the story or not...am I being uptight and prudish or is she playing a mindgame?

I'm about ready to delete her, but would appreciate insight...I don't feel I'm being too sensitive - but this is a very well rounded group.

Thanks...to follow is our correspondence...

From HER:

Hope that all is well with you and your child. I know that you would have told me by now but I was just wondering if I did or said anything to offend you in any way, form or fashion because I feel as if you've been avoiding me.. If so please let me know so that I can corrects my wrongs.. I wouldn't want to lose an old friend like you.. I miss talking to you Girl.. I liked having Coffee with you in the Morning..

Note: (She’d call in the morning and I was drinking Coffee)
Sincerely,
HER

From ME

HER,
To be honest, yes there was something that offended me and I was in no shape to even begin to address it but since you've asked, I don't think it's fair not to disclose although right now, I am not ready to discuss it further in great detail.

The last time we were on the phone, when I said I needed to remove my sweater, you made a comment about how I was lucky the phone did not have a camera.

Initially I was shocked and did not know how to respond because for some stupid unknown reason, I was actually offended but did not want to offend you. I am no longer in that boat. I do not seek to harm, but I will speak my mind.

I have made it clear I am straight. I do not find it exciting, I ain't flipping and I ain't interested in a woman - never have, never will. NOW whether you are a lesbian or if you were an actual man...either way, your comment was inappropriate and a clear indication that I need to be wary simply because I have made it clear where my head is at, I am in recovery from a number of injuries and on some level, you thought that despite my being very upfront about where I stand on the gender issue you thought I would find that flattering?

AND, where do I stand, when someone makes such a comment? Is it testing the waters? Is it to see if I'll bite? WTH?...More disappointing, it seems that there was a MO with this friendship, and that is what most disturbs me because once again, I stick my fucking head out there, with the best intentions, not making judgements, or "discriminating" because someone is "different" from me...look past that, and try to see the "person"...as a "person" and try to have an honest relationship, based on sharing and once again, there is an MO attached. Not cool. And saying someone is different from me - I want to clarify does not mean any less than or any more than...it just means different. And I'm not sure how to express this in the best PC way - but what I am trying to express is that I know many people because of their fucking hangups that would not even associate with someone who is engaged in an alternative lifestyle...probably having more to do with their ignorance or insecurity but I was not one of those assholes...but this particular incident, also makes me understand why someone might avoid that situation because they don't want to feel uncomfortable - rejecting someone's overtures, or hurting thier feelings...NO ONE wants to do that - but then again, how can one not feel on a certain level manipulated or violated when I made it as clear as I could, I'm not flattered, or interested in other women?

Frankly, I don't want to hear, how I misunderstood, I think and belive I understood quite well...slips don't just "happen"

Now, that does not mean I hold resentment in my heart - definately a poor lack of judgement on your part; however, this incident has left me unsettled, and it isn't about some "great big forgiveness" or anything like that - but I do feel that there has been some type of harm and it has hindered my ability to trust. I realize I have certain issues, but under the circumstances, being vunerable - my tolerance is very low, and I am no longer in a position to just "shrug" off offenses for the sake of sparing another's feelings, it is doing that my whole fucking life that has landed me where I'm at.

There is no need to apologize so to speak, I just would prefer some distance until further notice that may be temporary, it may be permanant.

Again, please do understand that there is no harboring of resentment or hatred and I understand people make mistakes but at this juncture, there are too many other things on my plate and I think it best for all parties involved that we just leave it at an impasse.

All the best.

Michele,
After receiving and reading your long letter it comes to my surprise that a JOKE has actually turned into something offensive and I'm being accused of it being my MO. Why, I ask didn't you nip it in the butt rather then dwell on it. I joke with some of my STRAIGHT friends that way and NONE of them take it the way you have but yet I must take into account the state of mind your in; Excuse me but I didn't think of that. If ever we were to talk again I would NEVER joke with you. If I were ever interested in someone I don't hold my tongue. I tell them right upfront. So as you said and I agree there should definitely be some distance!!

God Bless You