All the lies.....

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#1 Aug 3 - 12PM

tigger73

All the lies.....

I had a conversation with a mutual friend of my now exNH. They work together, and she and I have been friends for a very long time, and we confide in each other, she is really only an acquaintance with N thru work, anyway, she told me what he is telling people at his place of work, I know all of these fine folks too, and it is one lie after another. A few things he said that have bothered me are that "he couldn't think of the last time I rolled over in bed and just even touched his back". AND, "I don't think she ever really wanted to be married, just have kids". These things have confused me a bit I will admit. After the marriage started, early on, the abuse started, and I literally spent ALL my time protecting my kids from the emotional abuse. I sugar coated over a lot, and I am confused because we always wanted him to do stuff with us, go places with us, but he NEVER wanted to. It was too much for him. He would come and go and I was just there.And when we did get home, he refused to talk to any of us and was angry because we werent home. What? So, I guess I didn't feel like rubbing his back or touching it in bed because he was not a nice person. Very confusing. We had sex regularly. That wasn't an issue. He also said that he wished that I had more 'self confidence' to prance around him in the bedroom in sexy lingerie.....I could have done that, fine, I have taken care of myself physically because God help you with a N is you are not in perfect shape, but I didn't FEEL like prancing for him. I had 3 kids on the other side of the door that were hungry for breakfast. And I am a confident person. Screw him. He also explained that he and I have different ideas and wants on how to spend time with the kids. He said, "you know, she likes to take the kids to the zoo" and I like to sit with them in my recliner with the remote and watch t.v together. WHAT??????????? This info is helping me to see what a selfish SOB he is. Thank you my dear friends for listening. You are all my lifeline. If I could have a giant party and have you all over I would. What a fun party that would be!!!!

#2 Aug 3 - 2PM

herlatestvictim

They love to triangulate!

I was the OW, I later found out. My ex-N said she the live in girlfriend of nearly 2 years was a roommate. Anyway... Once the truth came out, my ex-N would tell me how the girlfriend was: a zombie boring gave no attention or affection dumb dirty was just like a roommate- except for the title etc... I BELIEVED IT! Once I realized what an N I was dealing with, I quickly realized that the girlfriend was probably a lovely person. They lie. They devalue and spread their new version of the truth to anyone who will listen, anyone who will feel sorry for them and give them attention for it. I also think they lie about their partners because they ENVY the beauty and kindness that lies within those partners. The funny thing is that N's don't realize how repulsive they become once we see them for who they truly are. Rub your back!? Kiss my @$$!!!!!

#3 Aug 3 - 2PM (Reply to #4)

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when i found out about the ow[she told me] tho he denied a relationship. i believed her, and as time went on he began beign disloyal about her, she was dirty scruffy, a liar, oh and she had been married and her husband use to hit her, narc said ,can you blame him, and tho i was hurt finding out i thought you f;;.ing dis loyal dog, relizing as well he must be running me down to her and i was right. and thats when i called it a day, he never would believe it wasent b/c the relationship[we were only friends] but cos he had lied, and lied, and lied again, i said i hope it was worth it ,he said i didnt have to tell you you are only a mate, well i met someone else too, and when he got nasty, i said i didnt have to tell you, you were only a mate. he threatened to kill us both. dont think he has ever heard of double standards, lol.

#4 Aug 3 - 2PM (Reply to #5)

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he said as well, she might of thought it was a relationship, i didnt, all she is is a convience, she has, and i quote, her own car, house washing machine,3 things he always said to his mother that they should have[the woman] food tv, and the sex was bottom of the list[much], and somewhere to go to save him staying in his grooty little hovel. what a man. as far as i know she stayed with him, funny thing is he never asked me to do his washing, cook, in fact he never asked anything like that except my company, no wonder he kept saying to me,you dont relize what respect i give you, he even bought me gifts, and told ow, all she had got was a card, he denied that as well, i suppose we would have gone on like that, but i met a man friend, he told ow, so thats when she told me obout them, he didnt tell her he was threaten the pair of us, but she knows now. she reminded me of him in away which i always found a bit strange, when she told me about them she didnt do it nicely, but with malice, it backfired on both of them.

#5 Aug 3 - 1PM

betty2020

Perfect example of how it is

Perfect example of how it is all about him! The selfishness is beyond a level of comprehension for us normals. We deserve to be recognized in the relationship, and they do everything in their power to make you less than human and not worthy. How sick this is. Mine would never do anything with us either, unless there was something in it for him. I actually would plan every thing we did around his likes and wants b/c i couldnt ever get him out of the house. We would go look at guns b/c he liked them. The bottom line is that he had no interest in showing me a good time. He could care less if i was enjoying myself or happy and content in our relationship. I was to busy worrying about him that i didnt see how one sided this relationship really was. I was non existent it was only about him. only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#6 Aug 3 - 1PM

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trigger

this arsehole shouldnt be discussing you at all, how pathetic you didnt touch his back, waaaaaaa, my exh told one of our son,s, i tryed my best son but your mother never loved me, well why didnt he fuck off then , oh i know he is gutless, great to be free from these morons,

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