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#1 May 17 - 7AM
Lobo555
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Afraid of Setback

Well, I'm 2 months NC since I broke things off with the narc. Gotta say, that feels great. He got married 3 weeks after I broke things off with him to a woman he only *knew* for 3 weeks. This is why I've now dubbed him CharlieSheenWinning. I'm big on nicknames. :) The marriage wasn't to give her citizenship or anything like that. CharlieSheenWinning married for "love." Oh yes, and tantric sex. WINNING!!!!

Yes, it's ridiculous and he's setting himself up to look the fool. I, on the other hand, am working to be healthy and move on from a disastrous 4 yr on/off nightmare with him.

My concern is, I feel a lot better than I have in ages, but I'm afraid that running into CharlieSheenWinning and WinningWife will set me back to square one!

Any advice on what I can tell myself in the aftermath? I'd like to prepare myself now for the inevitable.

Thanks and hugs to you all. You have no idea how much you've helped since I've found this board!

May 17 - 8AM
Hunter
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Why do you think you'll

Why do you think you'll runinto them? If you do ,be prepared for anything! This use to happento me years ago. Just say nothingand walk away! Remember never let them see you sweat! You need a buddy ASAP, no matter how you prepare it will not be pleasant! Have the meltdown behind closed doors call your buddy and run to the board! Sorry this is not the answer you were looking for but I'm pretty sure,since you are human, it's going to hurt! It will get easier as it goes! Hunter
May 17 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
Lobo555
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Small Town

I live in a very small town. I'm surprised I haven't run into him already! I have a lot of wonderful, supportive friends and a mom who is the greatest. So I know I can run to the phone and find someone to help. Also I know I will run -- not walk -- to this board! Yes, it'll hurt like f-ing hell. I really just want to sit back and laugh at the CharlieSheen-ness of it all, but it will hurt. I am not prepared for that kind of pain. My suck up and deal has got up and gone. It's been too much too fast. Thus, I'm stressing.
May 17 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
Hunter
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Suck up and deal, is what you

Suck up and deal, is what you must do, by dealing it will hurt, by avoiding you won't get better! So feel all of it and learn from it to! It's a journey and a process, I will get better, I promise! Stay Strong Hunter