Advice needed
Advice needed
5 years ago my daughter was left broken by a relationship with a sociopath/narcissist or whatever the hell he is and never really dealt with it or got over it. So when she went back to him last December although horrified, I kept quiet and thought ok. will just let this play out again and he will either prove me wrong about him or I will pick up the pieces again. Its taken 9 months but she finally got to see him this week for what he truly is and has severed all contact, she is going to be fine but is understandably sad having realised that he couldn't have loved her at all or anyone for that matter. To understand why I need advice I have to tell you what has happened. Basically on the 14th September they kissed each other good bye and off he went on his boys weekend. On the Sunday night the strangest coincidence happened when my other daughter mentioned to her boyfriend that he was at centre parks on his boys weekend and he said thats funny there is a girl on my facebook who has gone there this weekend and yes you have guessed his boys weekend consisted of 3 boys and 3 girls. When she found out she dumped him immediately even though he told her he didnt know the girls were going and he didnt cheat on her. Last Thursday while she was at work in the office she was called to reception and took delivery of a huge bouquet of flowers and started shaking as she opened the card thinking please be off Gaz (a guy she had been on a couple of dates with since slitting from HIM) but no unbelieveably they were from the Narc being the nice girl she is she just sent a thank you but he had her then and started the text messages begging her to give him another chance but she held strong. Sunday for some unknown reason he started sending me long messages declaring undying love for her and acknowledging that he had hurt her time and time again and that he didnt know why he did the things he did and asking me to speak to her on his behalf. My god is he good I said I couldnt interfere but would have a talk with her. Those long messages kept coming in and I wont bore you with the details but even knowing what he is and what he's done I almost started to believe his lies. On Tuesday of this week I told her what he had been saying but she still stood strong and sent him a message again telling him it was over. Later Tuesday night he turned up at her house unexpectedly and she let him in, again he declared his undying love for her, I didnt cheat that weekend, I will treat you like a princesss etc etc she admitted afterward that she still had feelings for him and promised him to think for a few days and that she would give him her answer on Friday (yesterday) but that he was not to msg her or me for that matter during that time which he didnt. On Thursday afternoon I got a message from her saying that she wanted to msg the girl on facebook who had been on the weekend away and unsure if that was a good idea or not, I just said do what you need to do. So the email was sent. An hour later a reply came back with the opening sentence "You were his girlfriend????" then went on to admit that yes they had slept together over the weekend and she had been dating him since then and had in fact been at his apartment Wednesday night to clear the air after an argument with him (this was night after he was on his knees declaring undying love to my daughter) and that in fact he had messaged her and asked her to come around Thurs night for a drink at 6.30. She was very honest in her response to the email, apologised and said he had told them all he had been single for 9 months. My daughter thanked her and asked if it would be ok to tell him that she had spoken to her and she said we will do better than that, we will both go around to his apartment. So these two girls who had never met before went to his apartment and knocked on the door. He nearly had a heart attack and then my daughter said to him "the answer is no, I will not marry you, I will not have your babies etc and then threw the bouquet at him and walked away with her head held high. She waited on the stairs and could hear the girl ask him to his face "was she your girlfriend that weekend" it took a few tries but he finally admitted it. To cut this long story short both girls left together and during the drive back to pick my daughters car up they both got a message saying "Fair play, you got me" no apology nothing. Now this has all happened in the last couple of days and it struck me this morning that this other girl thinks this is just a case of a guy cheating on two girls when we all know its so much darker than that and I have all the messages to prove how bad this actually is. My daughter will be fine eventually but although the other girl has said she wants nothing to do with him should I show her the long detailed fairy stories he sent to me or should I just leave it and hope he will go away quietly. Please let me know what you think I should do.
She's lucky....
Hey m-mom. I completely
I swear..
Isn't that the irony isn't
Another story in
Thank you round 3 yes she is
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Candid
I apologise Hunter, that must
Great.Answer.. We welcome
Your daughter is not well on her way to recovery
Thank you Mystified Mum
:) round3 I didnt explain
I think your daughter is amazing!
Let it go, I say. Let him
I wrote that at 5.30am this