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#1 Nov 6 - 2PM
cmae1
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Advice Column Wisdom

Here is an advice column I found recently, I don't think it has been posted:

http://www.lvrj.com/blogs/kalas/Happy_future_unlikely_with_man_who_leads...

Just a reminder that no one in this man's life has it better or worse. Let us be happy that he is gone, and hopefully move on with our lives!

Nov 6 - 3PM
cynthia (not verified)
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WOW

Good reading, leading double lives, and the reasons given make sense too, wants the coupled image but really cant stand it. She was just used for his normal image he wants others to see while he is a sexual predator on the side. Just like mine does, EXACTLY what mine does. I wondered that too, why would they want someone around when all they want is cheap casual sex from others and no real relationship? Just for the couple image she provides him. If I were in her shoes I would be quiet with that information she discovered, get my things in order, and just before I walked out the door and he came home to find everything of mine gone I would e-mail him on one of his sex sites and ask him if he would be interested in having the woman he lives with be apart of the double life he has had,the woman who gave him the image he wanted, the woman he shared his bed with, his meals with, the woman who loved him and cared for him... I think he would get the message real quick/ I would be out of the house just hours before he read his e mails, I would leave a note saying I left a message for you on one of your sex ads. I wouldnt even speak to him and he would never see me again.
Nov 6 - 7PM (Reply to #2)
Amazed
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Very Helpful

This post has helped me tremendously,,,thank you
Nov 6 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
cmae1
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there was even a follow-up

there was even a follow-up to this column: http://www.lvrj.com/blogs/kalas/Anonymous_reader_tries_to_set_record_straight_on_men.html apparently another N was reading the advice....
Nov 6 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
cynthia (not verified)
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bullshit

what a crock of shit, the second article, ya right he loves you very much he wants his cake and eat it too, sorry it doesnt work that way, just excuses to allow him to cheat and think its right and justifiable, sorry I would rather be alone than to have a partner I would have to share with hundreds of others and if they want a relationship like that he should not have hidden it from her in the first place, tell her like it is if he loved and respected her as he claims at least allow her the choice to stay or leave, rather than go behind her back and live a lie with this woman he loves so much
Nov 7 - 8AM (Reply to #5)
4joys4
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Wow and WOW! In the first

Wow and WOW! In the first article I contend with the idea that people cheat because of opportunity. They say women are catching up because they are in the workplace. I say people cheat because they want to and opportunities can be resisted by a solid character. But the response by the narc in the second article is amazing. We have to accept people as they are? He can safely say he loves his wife? My exN's mother tried to convince me by saying I should accept and live with her sons flaws. That her other son behaves like this also and you just have to realize it means nothing. She also believes he would never never have an affair. She knows him too well. Well. Mother dear...He did fall in love with another woman 3 days after our marriage. He told me so. He told me he was very attracted to her even though he told you that his only crime was friendship. And you, mother of the narc, maybe should teach your sons how to properly love their wives. That having other women and flirting isnt harmless and ok. grrr!!! lol