4th day NC!scared

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#1 Oct 22 - 7AM
eleanorjean1990
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4th day NC!scared

4th day NC and i am going up the wall! 5 days has been the longest but then his supply was obviously low and he came back into contact with a random text.last week we engaged in contact for almost a week.i hadn't come on here to talk or research basically because i was embarrassed i had engaged with the x N again.he told me its inevitable one day we'll be back together.but not right now even though he wants me,because he has to move on from what he did and forgive himself and i cant do anything to help him. i told him if he doesn't want to be in a relationship to let me go and let me move on and to stop contacting me.he said he could never let me go and i was the one and it hurts him not speaking to me.(although he can be out of contact for days?hmm ok.)he's still getting with other girls which hurts but he says its just to ease his pain over me!he's gone silent again now because I've apparently lied about a rumour about him been seen with a girl in the cinema.i told him to believe what he wants.HELP :(

Oct 22 - 12PM
ruby01 (not verified)
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eleanorjean1990

Don't ever feel bad for slipping. It happens to us all. But when you do, actually BEFORE you do, come here. Everyone here knows exactly what you are going through and if you are thinking of contacting him everyone on here will help you through it and hopefully change your mind. Listening to him will only make your head spin. That's why you have to stay away. Although he is obviously mistreating you, it is hard to see for yourself. When you step back and stay back, the fog will start to lift, promise! xxx Ruby
Oct 22 - 12PM
eleanorjean1990
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thank you all. im going to

thank you all. im going to send you all a private message. Elxx
Oct 22 - 10AM
Hunter
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Help

Delete,Delete,Delete!!!! That's all you need to do.. The more days of NC the stronger you will become.. Contact = Pain Hunter
Oct 22 - 10AM
Layla
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???? This guy is TOO MUCH!!!

Hi El! Congratulations on 4 days NC! You can do this!! I know you are trying, I think that you need to keep reading and letting the information (truths!) on PD's sink in. I think once you truly accept he is an N (and he IS!) this is going to get easier for you to remain NC. I want to say, I have been following you on here and you seem to get that all is not right with him, and you want to be done with him, but a part of you is still addicted to him, and another part of you has not fully accepted his PD yet. You know what though? You do post here, and you are honest about what is going on, you are honest with us, and yourself and that will only help you break free from this cheating, lying PD......... I agree with the other ladies here, this guy is so over the top full of bullshit it isn't even funny! I guess as a 41 year old woman, I have gathered some wisdom in my "middle age" hahahaa! He is stringing you along and using some really LAME reasons to be seeing other girls.....he is trying to "ease the pain"???? If I didn't feel so badly for your hurt feelings and confusion, I would be laughing! That is so ridiculous- and you know it too! NO MAN that wants only YOU as his partner would EVER be doing the things he is doing! NEVER in a million years! Be strong El, keep your NC light burning, you are a beautiful young lady with your whole life ahead of you- save yourself for a nice young man who shares your morals and will treat you like a lady and respect you. love~ Layla
Oct 22 - 9AM
Goldie
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WOW

First of all congrats on NC and secondly WTF, he is totally trying to manipulate you with his bullshit. He is just partying it up with the ow and contacting you when ever he pleases and then coming up with this crap about you being the one, to keep you on the string. I have never heard anything so ridiculous in my life. "I am sleeping with the OW to ease my pain over what I did to you." If it was not so sad for you and all that you are going through right now, I would be laughing out loud over the absurdity of that statement. I say screw him, actions speak louder than words buddy and your actions are of a complete lying, cheating, manipulating asshole. As much as this hurts, NC is the only way. Everytime you engage with him, he is going to continue to try and fill your head with this absolute nonsense. Go through the pain now and get it out. Post as much as you need to, get out that pain, anger, and betrayal and get this complete loser out of your life, once and for all. He is a piece of shit for trying to keep you on the string as he cheats on you and breaks your heart over and over again. He will not change, this is not about getting it out of his system, if you ever take him back, he will continue to cheat on you, this is what cheaters do, they always have an excuse as to why they cheat and when one excuse gets old and worn out, he will have a new one. Keep up the good work and don't text him or answer his texts, this one is bad news. God bless, Goldie
Oct 22 - 8AM
adoette
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eleanorjean

Wow. 100% narc moves. Here's all the help you need: 1. No contact: Block all gateways he has to you 2. Read all you can about NPD 3. Cling to this site Your going up the wall is normal, I'm sorry to say. NC is terribly difficult. You are experiencing withdrawal symptoms. As you keep reading, you will see the light. You already have a glimpse. My blob pulled the same stunts. Stay strong. You have begun a journey back to yourself. hugs, adoette PS I remember begging the blob to "let me go". He said he never would. He doesn't have to let you go. You have to let yourself go.