18 months is right!
18 months is right!
18 months is right for nearing a full recovery from all we've been through with narcs, everyone.
Hunter has said this in threads, and I remember last year, thinking...wow, that's a long time. But, now that I'm nearing it (I'm at roughly 16 months NC, and 18 months since the break up) I can see why she says that. :)
I'd say I was ''over'' him by the 8th month? But, it took a lot longer to finally face my own internal issues that caused me to accept abuse in the first place.
It also takes time to trust again, and not be so angry. And not angry with the ex N, but more angry with the injustices of life. I spent a good portion of this year struggling with seeing other narcs not in any relation to my life, hurting others...and watching them 'progress.' Whether that was socially or financially, it used to eat away at me.
But, now, I'd honestly say...I've regained my trust in mankind again...and have no anger.
Stay NC. That is the price you must pay the piper to get to peace and a new life. If you keep breaking it ...going back...trying to 'be friends...' you will never make it to the other side.
Work the process. Learn from the good people on this site. (thank you lisa and the mods) Learn from your mistakes.
Be patient with the process and yourself.
18 months is right! :)
Deirdre, in so glad you
Deidre
Just as I was logging in I
deidre
Congratulations!
How can I read your story????
thanks for this...nothing to
Well put
I am thrilled Dee
Hi Rose...lol yes hoovers can
Lol, healing is definitely
Journey on...
Yes D, though Hunter did not
Journey on...
yes 18 months
10 months, disgusted and