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#1 Nov 8 - 5PM
enoughalready
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10 months NC

It's been 10 months for NC, an ex-friend of XN told me something I never knew. I never knew he used crack cocaine, pot and ecstasy on a weekly basis. That explains why he rarely had money to save. I am so relieved and happy to be away from him. So ladies- trust your gut instincts and stay NC....it's the ONLY way to free yourself

Nov 8 - 9PM
Lisa E. Scott
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EnoughAlready!

Congrats! I'm so proud of you! 10 months NC!!!! That's incredible! You are an inspiration!!! So glad you're sharing your success with us!!!! xoxo
Nov 8 - 8PM
michele115 (not verified)
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enoughalready

and you never noticed? Curious because I wondered about mine who "professed" to be 18 years clean.
Nov 10 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
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michele115

I must tell you I tend to be naive and give everyone the benefit of doubt. But I did think twice when I'd meet some of his friends and they really looked like "druggies" and "potheads". XN told me he didn't smoke pot or do any drugs as he "frowned" on others that did. I have never smoked pot or taken any recreational drugs so I have no clue what to look for. His ex roommate told me he snorted cocaine, smoked pot and did crack cocaine on a weekly basis. And bc XN lied about everything, I have no choice but to believe his ex-roommate. It makes perfect sense when it comes to his financial situation staying in constant debt. And certain statements he used like" so-so is talking #hit behind my back about selling cocaine. And I didn't think anything about when he told me the rumors were false. I rarely visited his apartment due to its lack of cleanliness and smell. Perhaps the smell was due to the drugs in use. I do feel silly for not picking up on the drug use situation since I am a ER RN- XN was an excellent actor and he truly fooled me. I have no idea who he is or was. It's quite scary to think I dealt with a devil in disguise and never knew it. Stay away from your XN-you'll be happy in the long run....XO
Nov 10 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
michele115 (not verified)
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Geesh

Now I wonder if mine was doing drugs behind my back...that means I may have been put at a lot of risk... Allegedly he was 18 years clean and one day, all hell broke loose... Shaking my head is all I can do. I'm very much like you, no history of drugs and would have no clue. These guys are smooth hey? It must be part of the Druggie manual... Awww, the hell with 'em
Nov 8 - 5PM
chickon2
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wow

congrats.. AND good for you with 10 months NC. It is awful the things we find out about these guys.. BUT thank God you are away from all of that.. HUGS to you
Nov 8 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
enoughalready
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chickon2

Gf- funny how I was responding to your post when you were replying to mine. Hugs to you too. It's weird to find out I never knew who he was. It was all a facade....
Nov 8 - 5PM
almostlydia
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Good for you, on 10 months

Good for you, on 10 months NC. I am most certain there are many many things I never knew about. Now it doesn't matter any more does it, except add fuel to the fire. Congrats! almostlydia

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Nov 8 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
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almostlydia

You are right to say it doesn't matter but it does give me some validation that I wasn't "crazy" or "psycho". Thanks- I hope you are doing well....
Nov 8 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
almostlydia
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I never knew what a sweet

I never knew what a sweet word 'validation' was:)! I am still working on getting there, but it is all ok. Thanks, enoughalready. almostlydia

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