The 10% Hope?
The 10% Hope?
Hey, remind me again why Ns just can't let go..... why they keep you hanging on with at least 10% hope. Mine, over 23 years, has gone from 10% - 80% hope - I'm sure depending on how low his supply was in other areas of his life.
Is it because they can't stand abandonment? I'm assuming they are not keeping us on the back burner because they actually want a real relationship with us? I guess it is just supply again. Cause I can see that the single women he was really leading on last year are still available so he never intended to start anything with them.
After one month of successful no contact and ignoring on my part, and after being completely D&D by him where he said he never wanted any relationship with me again, and of course it was all my fault for violating his boundaries â„¢ blah, blah, blah - he emailed me twice, which I ignored and then he called me at work yesterday and I picked it up....ughhhh....
Of course, upon hearing his penetrating, sweet voice, I melt instantly. He offered his help again with an issue I had been working on and stupid me talked to him about it for about 1 hour and he was all sweet again, laughing, happy, asked me "how are you doing??" in that really caring, penatrating voice that always made me feel like he cared for me deeper than anyone on the planet. talked to me about some person things, like vacation stuff. And then said "hey, I'll call you back tomorrow and let's touch base on this again!" I didn't respond one way or another. And then 7:30am I get an email from him again saying that "upon reflection", there probably wasn't anything more for us to talk about. So once again, he is in control and decides when we will talk and not talk. And gets to make me obsess over him again.
Why am I so stupid to allow myself to be mindfucked over and over again????? So now I am obsessing about everything all over again. And it is my fault!
Dangling the hope
The more important question
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
Having no contact with my ex
Yes Ninga Girl!
Just checking...
I would ask myself a different question
letting go
Goldie
False Beliefs
thanks betteroff
kick kick... beat beat...
Good question LOML
Goldie
That's exactly what I'm
almostlydia
I'm sad that your N did all
betteroff
Great post!!
goldie
Anniversary's can trigger us
thankyou
goldie
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