Moving backwards.

It is hard when I think back to all the bad times we went through. All the mean things that were done and said.
For months it was the silent treatment, and him never being able to tell me what he wanted from me. Just enough for me to hold onto. Him seeing other girls, and not allowing me to see others. etc, etc. I was a constant wreck, and I think he finally felt bad?
One day, He just up and told me "I did these same things to my ex, and I'm not going to put you through it, too." He went from literally one day, being all wishy washy, playing games. To finally standing ground. He used to approach me so immaturely. "You wore red lipstick?!!? in front of a guy? What the hell." (He then told me he got oral from some girl because of it. and I said sorry!)
So after the months of crap, he kicked in mature charming mode. He would listen to me cry. Try to help me move on.. Well. Telling me "better things will come." (As long as it didn't involve him going out of his way or seeing me.) Now, I'm putting him back on that pedestal. yuck. I feel like most other men would put me on block, or ignore me, or call names. Instead he re-adds me on Facebook, and asks me how I'm doing.
Is this normal? It has me questioning if he is even a narc. and I need to delve more into MY problems.