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#1 Aug 30 - 3PM
malloryforest
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Barbara

Spoke to lawyer this weekend. She wants to fight for sole custody and to restrict his visitations to nothing. She is convinced he is a sociopath. Sent her everything that I have. His GF is still standing by his side. Fine for her. Not my problem.

I am feeling hopeful. I know he is going to try to twist this all around. I pray that my kids have as minimal contact with this man as possible. He is mentally dangerous.

Aug 31 - 10AM
Lisa E. Scott
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Mallory

Good for you! I'm so proud of you. This man is "pond scum" as you put it so eloquently. Your kids should be nowhere near him. The fact that his live-in GF is taking him back is so sad. Unfortunately, these men always find someone who will put up with their b.s. I'm so glad you are no longer under his spell. You are doing so well and so incredibly strong. You're maintaining "No Contact" beautifully! I know it's hard. Keep up the good work! Big Hugs, Lisa
Aug 31 - 11AM (Reply to #8)
malloryforest
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Lisa

No contact has been the hardest thing ever. Not because I miss him, just finding the right balance between contact for kids and no contact for me.
Aug 31 - 2PM (Reply to #9)
Barbara (not verified)
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kids

no child needs to be in touch with a monster like this - parent or not. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B
Aug 31 - 10AM
Lisa E. Scott
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Mallory

Good for you! I'm so proud of you. This man is "pond scum" as you put it so eloquently. Your kids should be nowhere near him. The fact that his live-in GF is taking him back is so sad. Unfortunately, these men always find someone who will put up with their b.s. I'm so glad you are no longer under his spell. You are doing so well and so incredibly strong. You're maintaining "No Contact" beautifully! I know it's hard. Keep up the good work! Big Hugs, Lisa
Aug 30 - 4PM
quietude (not verified)
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good for you

Mallory, I'm so glad you're going for this. All the time you've been describing him from the beginning, it's been unsettling thinking of him being around those kids alone.
Aug 30 - 3PM
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

He handed you a gift. Your attorney probably knows he will try to twist everything - so don't worry. (I knew he was a sociopath the minute you started talking about him...) When's the next court date? What's your therapist saying? He's done. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Aug 30 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
malloryforest
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he's done

I hope he is done. He still doesn't have a lawyer, but I am sure that will change quickly. Yesterday, GF asked for a couple of texts showing me how he was trying to get back with me. I sent her a couple. I will not send her anything anymore. She is still buying his BS. Got to take care of kids and myself. She needs to figure it all out on her own. I think he intercepted the texts. He is probably freaking out about what I could send her. Oh, Barbara, Do you really think he is toast? I heard you can only get sole custody if you can prove the father is physically abusing the kids. What about mental abuse? Would this be seen as mental abuse? Will the courts protect the kids because of what he has done to me?
Aug 30 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
quietude (not verified)
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custody

I got sole custody and supervised visitation only with my ex alcoholic husband who "mildly" physically abused me (he didn't have time to go after my son...I flew the coop when he was 3 weeks old). Don't listen to people who say things CAN'T be done. My lawyer did to, she was wrong apparently.
Aug 30 - 4PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory - yum, yum TOASTY!

listen to quietude: Don't listen to people who say things CAN'T be done. My lawyer did to, she was wrong apparently. Either your lawyer was wrong or LAZY, quietude. This is why I am so STRIDENT about you - the client - RUNNING THE SHOW - do not be passive and wait for your lawyer. You push, YOU tell them what you want. Say "what can we do to MAKE THIS HAPPEN?" Period. mallory - your lawyer should be fighting for this. Seems like she finally got a wake up call about him and will. YOU need to stay on top of her. I hope he is done. He still doesn't have a lawyer, but I am sure that will change quickly. It's too late... he's already buried himself w/out a lawyer... anyone he hires now can only clean up from the psycho-party he's thrown. LOL Yesterday, GF asked for a couple of texts showing me how he was trying to get back with me. I sent her a couple. I will not send her anything anymore. She is still buying his BS. Got to take care of kids and myself. She needs to figure it all out on her own. Let her buy it - women always believe these psychos until its too late. Tell your lawyer she did this - show her the GF's texts and what you did and that you have gone NO CONTACT with the GF. I think he intercepted the texts. He is probably freaking out about what I could send her. or he's lying to her saying YOU are begging him to come back and you 'made up' all those other texts. That's what Psycho-Boy did to me. Again - tell your lawyer he may have intercepted, etc. I believe he will try to SPIN this the same way to your lawyer. And she already knows he's a pathological liar. Oh, Barbara, Do you really think he is toast? I don't say things I don't mean... and MAN is he crispy! YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP THINKING ABOUT ALL THE BS he TOLD YOU AND THE MIND CONTROL & HYPNOSIS!!!! You're still thinking he has power. HE still thinks he has power over you. But in reality he has NONE! Maintain NC. I heard you can only get sole custody if you can prove the father is physically abusing the kids. What about mental abuse? Would this be seen as mental abuse? Will the courts protect the kids because of what he has done to me? Stop listening to all the negative shit you hear. He's programmed you to believe stuff that is harmful to you - even when it comes from others! He's mentally abusing the kids with all this mental manipulation in front of them and who knows what he says to them when you are not around. He's going to try to rewrite history but fortunately you & your lawyer have him DEAD TO RIGHTS. He's so delusional I'd bet he doesn't know how SCREWED he is. I am smelling some future jail time for him when he balks at paying support and alimony. Can't wait... I hope orange is his color! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B