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First, I just want to say how incredibly grateful I am to Lisa, the site developers and moderators of this site. As so many others have said, this site has been an incredible resource for me and I am so glad to have found it. Even if nothing at all changed in this site's features of functionality, I would still love it. However, here are a couple of features that may be nice additions when the site is refreshed. 1) The ability to connect with/send private messages to other members. 2) The ability to know when someone has replied to your post within a thread. 3) The ability to edit/add profile information. It would be nice to see members' locations (easier to connect with others nearby) see links to members' stories (I can't always remember everyone's story, it would be a nice reminder) Those are just my thoughts. I can't wait to see the new site and read the new book!

I have to admit that the new site really does seem more for those who have gotten on with it. That's a great thing and I want to get there, but I feel like this old site is for the "bastard children" of the site LOL where I can let it all hang out and still be sucking my thumb and pacing LOL I guess I don't feel ready yet :(

if they could add a chat and private message feature to this one that would be awesome!

I am always logged into both sites and the chat feature is absolutely wonderful. I've enjoyed that particularly, but often when I look to see if anyone is also online, I am the only one. The new sites have a lot of cool features, like notifications when people comment on your post and others that you subscribe to (which is default when you make a comment I think). I even like seeing everyone's pics though I am hesitant to show my own face still at this point. Having a profile is pretty cool too. It makes it way easier to find your own comments on threads you might want to keep track of. What I do find really difficult is the forum itself. Having categories makes older topics easier to find, but I don't like the way the comments are laid out at all. I like to post right under someone the way it is here in response and the new forum doesn't allow that 'threading', therefore I find reading the comments with a through line of conversation more difficult. On this site the forum may be more old school as far as the web tech goes, but I find it way easier to both read and comment. I will continue to stay close to both, but I find the focus separation a bit distracting too. When I start a new topic now I want to post it on both sites which just disturbs my sense of continuity for the comments and responses - lol! There is a much better sense of order to the forum over there and in the long run once several topic posts exist, THAT will make it easier than this forum to read the topics that apply to each stage of our recovery. Also, it will help prevent new topics being created which only repeat ones created longer ago. Instead new comers can add to existing threads when it is essentially the same discussion and have way more comments to read which will help answer particular dilemmas. Anyway, like everyone else here I so appreciate BOTH for their intent and community so I'll be found on either :) Journey on...

Y'all are gonna laugh at me but its a trauma bond lol. No seriously I mean we all came here and gut wrenching pain. Its we the abused all found a sanctuary together. I really think there is something to it. I will say I like the new site just no one is ever on there. We are still over here huddled in the storm cellar hiding from those freaks of nature

I have to agree w/ OWML. This one is just plain easier. I think the other required you to categorize your issue (Step 1, 2, etc). I'm sure it will make sense once there is an "official" reference point like the new book and if that's how you make it to the site. But, for people who are referred from other sources or completely unschooled on the topic, it makes it difficult. I mean no disrespect to those that worked so hard to put it together. I just worry that the people that really need it the most, that are freshest to the N experience, may not know where to go once they hit the board. And, it is quiet over there.

I do find it a bit odd that people on that site have face pics. I remember it being mentioned when I joined that you shouldn't really use names, pics etc. for privacy purposes. Otherwise...the new site seems a bit empty to me.

Perhaps as Onwithmylife says, people have preferences. When Lisa's book comes out, we will be concentrating on the recovery aspects for all the different levels of healing. Where you feel comfortable is best and some like both. They do offer many options between the two. So glad to have you here Justice, your recovery and openness is a power of example for all of us. Goldie

to be truthful, i have always liked this site , quick, easy to use and read, easy to post. I know a lot of work has been put into that site and I have looked in on it from time to time, but THIS is where I feel the most comfortable.One day or 5 years out to me does not make a difference in which site to use, I like the ease of this good ole one!