A tale of revenge
A tale of revenge
Let me start off my saying that we should not seek revenge, and I did not seek it, although I did fantasize about it!
I wanted to pass along what happened to the EXN after he dissapeared on me. I have shared my story and I found out that he was not only married, but a seriel cheater as well. After his 2nd OW contacted me on FB and we compared Narc's I was told about another- younger OW -(let's just call her YOW)and she learned that he was also seeing this "girl" behind her back and his wife's back.
Of course, it didn't "mean" anything :)
So, sometimes these Narcs really don't know who they are messing with. And, in the case with YOW I think this one came back to bite him in the behind. You see YOW didn't appreciate falling for a married man, and his excuses did not work on her, or her family (which like mine,he met) didn't appreciate all of his lies either. After all, he was in the military and spoke of things such as integrity and honor, but of course, he had none of either. But, they all thought he did.
YOW was so heartbroken, and angered she started sending him anonymous text messages to his phone...and his wifes phone...nasty messages. She made jokes directed at him, his penis size, his lying, she really let it go! She also expressed her dissapointment in his tiny member, (some thing all of us were dissapointed in.) I found it exciting, enthralling, humorous, to hear about this YOW and her horribe (harrassing) text messages. They went on for months and he just couldn't figure out who it was, he blamed OW#3 (or is it #2?!) and was convinced it was she that was sending these messages. She denied it was her. It was only after a trace that he figured out the area the texts were coming from - see, she sent them via computer, so there was no number to trace back.
During my heartache, fog and confusion it was pretty great to hear about this and to hear that someone finally wasn't going to take his BS and actually did something to try and get even with him. She did not hold back a bit (blame on young age!)
Although she did not keep NC she did get to vent her anger and feelings and got in quite a few good jabs at him in the process and also made him crazy with paranoia!
Can you imagine being able to send messages to your narc without him knowing it is you?
She eventually stopped but I wonder if maybe this will stick with him and next time he may not be so careless with the people he says he loves?
Telling his colleagues I didn't know he already had a girlfriend
I often wonder if the "cure"
they DON't Get it
momoya
one other thing..
momoya