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#1 Dec 19 - 5PM
gettinbetter
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Shhhh! dont tell anyone

but I think I might be doing a little better. Last night I went and met up with a bunch of my old girlfriends from high school. This morning I woke up and I didnt think of the N first thing! Usually that is the first thing that pops into my mind. I shopped all day today and he only popped into my mind a few times.

Weird thing is I had a good day today but I have a ton of tension in my jaws which results from anxiety but i didnt feel sad today so I dont know why I have that. Any ideas???

I was almost afraid to post this becuase I dont want to jinx myself.

Dec 20 - 10AM
Hunter
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wahooooooooo! I knew you

wahooooooooo! I knew you could do it. These guys are so creepy. It's all about us now! You go girl! Oxox
Dec 20 - 10AM (Reply to #10)
Scoop
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Ahhhh clap hands clap clap

Ahhhh clap hands clap clap clap ! That first day when you wake up and he isnt the first thing you think of is a huge mile stone !The first good day you have is another , it is clear proof that healing is happening to you . Its a long journey and there are set backs , good days and bad but you are on youre way ... im so pleased for you .. Scoop x
Dec 20 - 12PM (Reply to #11)
gettinbetter
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aww thanks girls

The progress is slow. Today I have had urges to text but I haven't. I'm just waiting for the day that that I will feel that he is a piece of shit instead of just thinking he is a piece of shit
Dec 22 - 5PM (Reply to #12)
Hunter
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Help

SOI, does it help if I tell you he's a turd? That's what he is. Today Moore posted an email from her Narc. Read it, my guess is you have had a similar response. He will not be ,who you want him to be ,he is sick, NPD is real. I wish I could say different, I wish for me too. For me it helps reading story after story. Everyone of the guys are exactly the same. It's textbook. Please, I feel your pain, you need to change your focus. You are letting him win! A giant hug, idealk
Dec 22 - 5PM (Reply to #13)
gettinbetter
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idealk9NYC

Awww thx dude. I know all the facts. I think its just a matter of time at this point. Time to detox. It just sucks. I actually should be thankful that he doesnt speak to me atleast that speeds up the detox. I would be in deeper by now if he were still speaking to me. Its just that it makes you feel so bad. Wish we could talk sometime.
Dec 22 - 6PM (Reply to #14)
Hunter
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SOI

I'd love to talk to you. I missed you all day. :) I'll l get Betty to give me your email if that's ok ? Then we can chat. I don't know why I'm so much better I really was pretty low. I guess, it's,meds, friends , a great shrink, and you guys. I just wish you were in the same place I feel badfor my new friend. Love idealk
Dec 19 - 9PM
michele115 (not verified)
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RE: THE JAW

You might be clenching it in your sleep. If you can do it, maybe ask your dentist for a jeesh - can't think of it now...but it's like a guard you sleep with to keep you from doing that. It was right on the tip of my tongue, but if you talk to your dentist, he'll know what you mean. He can also check out your teeth to see if you're grinding them down. Stress sometimes causes us to grind and clench in our sleep. I think it's called a dental guard. You want to do this cause over time, you can end up with TMJ. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temporomandibular_joint_disorder http://ezinearticles.com/?Teeth-Grinding,-Jaw-Clenching,-and-TMJ-Disorders&id=1729720
Dec 19 - 9PM (Reply to #8)
gettinbetter
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My husband says im not

My husband says im not grinding my teeth in my sleep but I was watching a massage video on you tube because dont laugh but they totally relax me. Anyway I was watching one of the facial massage videos and the therapist said that it is quite common for tension and anxiety to settle in your jaws. Now back to the massage video LOL. I swear it totally works though so do the sleep and mediatation ones
Dec 19 - 9PM (Reply to #7)
gettinbetter
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My husband says im not

My husband says im not grinding my teeth in my sleep but I was watching a massage video on you tube because dont laugh but they totally relax me. Anyway I was watching one of the facial massage videos and the therapist said that it is quite common for tension and anxiety to settle in your jaws. Now back to the massage video LOL. I swear it totally works though so do the sleep and mediatation ones
Dec 19 - 6PM
Anne_
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happy for you!

Even though I had a VERY good day today, my heart is beating very fast, and I feel the tension still in my right arm. I think our body is slower in letting go than our mind? But I'm so happy for you that you're doing better. Hugs, Anne
Dec 19 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
gettinbetter
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Thank you. Don't laugh but I

Thank you. Don't laugh but I have been watching relaxtion sleep and meditation videos on you tube and voila tension in my jaws is much better they melt the tension right away and put you to sleep. Try it they totally work
Dec 19 - 5PM
Deidre99
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I'm calling the newspapers!

I'm calling the newspapers! haha :P This is such a great thing to read. I'm happy for and proud of you. You are on the path to healing. {{{hugs}}}
Dec 19 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
gettinbetter
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Thanks sweets. You remind me

Thanks sweets. You remind me of myself when I first got on here. I was a posting fool. A sponge thirsty for info
Dec 19 - 5PM
Amazed
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Getting with people that really make you feel good

Bottom line. No shame. Get with people who you have fun with. Have common intersets, your interests,,,,go there, be bold, spread your wings,,enjoy your life, your freedom, your bliss, you, and what you like... Good for you,,,keep it up...!!! p.s narcs have a way of making us have interests and behaving in ways that are not good for us...stay out of their mess, no helping them in any way,,,,