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#1 Nov 20 - 8AM
fooled no longer
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Narc logic?

the only way I can make sense of this hate, and try to deal with it, is to remind myself the of things he said at the begining that I could not process (I didnt know Narc) but now I see like this one.
He told me his exwife was always insecure and accused him of being unfaithful ( go figure)
So he told me : So if I'm always beeing accused of being unfaithful by my wife,
what's the problem to actually go ahead and be unfaithful, because I'm already being accused of it.

Now try and wrap your head around that one.

Nov 21 - 8AM
gettinbetter
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What logic?

What logic? I feel so ripped off. Ya'll got presents. Your Narcs had some primitive form of logic. Mine had none of that!
Nov 21 - 8AM (Reply to #9)
MsVulcan500
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Gifts

Now Sickofit, you saw what a lot of us got for gifts. The upside for you is you don't have a bunch of crap to get rid of like the rest of us! Goodwill would even turn their noses up at most of it.
Nov 21 - 6AM
onwithmylife
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no logic

My EX Narc had suuh double standards, it is now laughable to look back on it all. Not for friends but for other things, like if I passed some gas, that was "not ladylike: for him it was perfectly normal, and if I was in the bathroom, he would say what is that noise, but of course, when he went to the bathroom, with the door wide open, you could hear him for miles, that was perfectly all right, talk about double standards, see i had to be a 1950's perfect woman, who was really Barbie in disguise!!!????all double speak, opposite of what they say and bullshit in the end.
Nov 20 - 9AM
helldweller
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narc logic

The three minutes I talked to the narc after I talked to his other girlfriend, he said, "I'm sorry you don't understand that I have a lot of friends who do a lot for me. I wish you appreciated that." He was either saying that he had to screw her because she gave him money and presents OR that he just needs, needs, needs from everyone and I don't get it. It's scary.
Nov 20 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
Used
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narclogic

yes narc said to me this claptrap, he had other FREINDS", i said but you dont want me to have other freinds, just you....i hope he has found another friend to replace me...to fill his needs.....b/c i wont again..
Nov 21 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
TNR1
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They don't let go until they have some other supply....

So if you aren't hearing from your ex N, then you can be pretty sure that he is with someone new who is giving him supply. It's amazing how quickly these guys can move forward.
Nov 21 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
MsVulcan500
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Supply

Narcs choosing new supply is like us choosing what to eat for dinner. There is no commitment, no emotion, just what I want right now. It's not a lifetime commitment, just one meal. Or one date, or one week, you get my drift . . .
Nov 21 - 9AM (Reply to #5)
gettinbetter
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here's an analogy

I thought of last night. They take out a month to month lease. We take out a 30 year mortgage
Nov 21 - 9AM (Reply to #6)
terri
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sick of it

I LOVE that analogy!! That really does sum it up PERFECTLY!!

Believe in yourself!
Terri