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#1 Aug 6 - 7PM
Anonymous (not verified)
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a few more whys

why do they have a history of leaving us for periods then coming back? like they think we are going to be there with open arms? oh hi baby did you miss me? or they come back with are you still pouting or are you over your little bout? They will ignore you for days, a week, a couple weeks then resurface just when we are getting better they pull ya back in, i read once they love old sources less work than finding and training new ones, mmmmm they really have it down dont they

Aug 8 - 11AM
Carolyn
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They do what they want

They do what they want without fear of consequences.
Aug 6 - 9PM
Barbara (not verified)
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cynthia

why do they have a history of leaving us for periods then coming back? like they think we are going to be there with open arms? oh hi baby did you miss me? or they come back with are you still pouting or are you over your little bout? They will ignore you for days, a week, a couple weeks then resurface just when we are getting better they pull ya back in, i read once they love old sources less work than finding and training new ones, mmmmm they really have it down dont they Think about it from THEIR point of view. They already have seduced, brainwashed and programmed you... so coming back they just have to 'flip the right switches' and there you'll be. EASY. http://www.heart-2-heart.ca/men/page3.html http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/07/10/narcissists-experts-hypnosis They come back BECAUSE THEY CAN & BECAUSE WE LET THEM That's PRECISELY WHY!!!!! READ!: http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/04/30/starve-vampire-when-you-dont-respond http://gettingpastyourpast.wordpress.com/2008/01/11/does-anybody-miss-me... http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/20/cognitive-dissonance-obsessional-thoughts http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/06/24/what-narcissists-abuse-does-your-brain http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/28/emotional-memory-management Click on MESSAGE BOARD and read through ALL the pages... there's loads there ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily Online Coaching for Victims of Narcissists/ Psychopaths
Aug 6 - 9PM
cupcake (not verified)
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They are like yo-yo's!

Hey Cynthia, I think this is the push pull thing Lisa was talking about...Jekyll/Hyde In/Out Up/Down my way or the highway! Mine was the same, if he got too close he would ignore me for two weeks then come back when he wanted entertainment. I don't know about yours but when he came back he REALLY chased as in if you don't respond to a call within half an hour he will call again another hour within that a message "where are you why don't you answer" if I didn't respond then another call "call me call me". It's so different to that cold indifferent uninterested man of the that two week gap. They are completely spineless and have no understanding of how that makes you feel. It twists and turns you and really screws up your heart and feelings. Why can't they just let their yes be yes and their no be no!!! I think you are right they seem to sense when we are doing ok then in they come back again to screw you over! great bunch of people they are :)
Aug 7 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
cynthia (not verified)
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same here

I cant get over how they think after giving us silent treatment for a few weeks we would respond to them? Like barbara said, because we do, we are already trained and seduced by them and they know we are weak and it wouldnt take much for us to respond. Then they inject us but JUST ENOUGH for us to stick around or at least to still stay in touch for when they may need us at a later time. Have to keep those old supplies around for future possible use, hey they worked hard we went thru boot camp you know, we were being trained and we didnt even know it and they do this slowly, they condition us first with MR WONDERFUL, MR PERFECT, mine kept that up oh maybe a good 6 months, I was really hooked by then and in such a deep trance, and when they take the mr wonderful away we stay because we want to see mr wonderful again appear we get bits and pieces of him now and then but never like it was, and you never will see that again, my counselor said its hard work to act and THEY HATE IT but know they must maintain some of it for us to stick around, they probably get in their cars after being with us and say stupid fools, they are all alike, I am serious although I dont think fool is the word they use. Hey this is what they create, this is what they want in their life to have blood supply so why do they call US stupid when its the life they need to survive. Just like a cult with followers
Aug 6 - 8PM
neveragain
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I think this is why NO Contact Is Crucial

They do all of those things....and it's crazy making behavior. If you are getting better, it's like they have an uncanny RADAR to swoop in and check the temperature....HEY, How ya DOIN'???? It's part of the gaslighting/mind control techniques they use. Don't spend too much time wondering WHY....(which is very hard to do because we ALL want CLOSURE and ANSWERS)....just know that they'll surface again and prepare for it. The stronger you get, the more their radar senses it. They are so crafty and slippery. It's so frustrating!! Yes, they really have it down. neveragain