Projection

This is what she writes on her blog "Narc Attack" http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/11/narcissistic-projection.html "Hypocrites are for looks only. They think a thing ain't wrong if they get away with it. *******In other words, they confuse appearances with reality. Consequently, they have no conscience — just an unconscience.******* That is, they repress their conscience. Hence, what they do in the dark is shockingly different than what they do in the light of day. *******These are the people who put make-up on their image too thick in spots — right where the blemishes in their character are.****** Since it's all about their image, as Hamlet's mother said, they view sin as some kind of taint instead of as moral illness, or spiritual dis-ease. This is what gives them the notion that it can be "washed away" or smeared off. No wonder that, to get rid of it, they project instead of repent. So, narcissists are by no means alone in accusing others so as to project their own flaws off onto a scapegoat. It's just that they invest so much energy in doing it. ******They are fixated on their image to the point that it is uppermost in their mind 100% of the time. It's impossible to overemphasize that. ******** In contrast, normal people project only when on the defensive. And then they're likely to shake themselves off on whoever happens to be near at the moment. So, their aim is poor, and sometimes they project a flaw off onto someone who actually has it. But a narcissist's aim is impeccable. For example, whom does he call a liar? The most honest person around. Who does he say is dangerous? The savior of the group. Every single time. His talent for farce is so great that you could mistake him for astute." MY asterisks :D I dunno how to do the HTML thing on this board. THese are the ringers for me. Their talent for FARCE. Linda, do you see the farce? Only he doesn't know it's a farce, he is so "unconscious" he believes it. He can't conceive of a world where HE HIMSELF is not at the divine center with us all a'twirl around him. Well, he CAN conceive of it, but it is his worst fear, one that he cannot begin to acknowledge, one that will pursue him to his deathbed. What really hurts is to be one of NINE women (that you know of) in the last 24 months. Each of which probably feels a lot like you.

The ex-Psych professor would say during class that I was crazy, didn't know how to "manage my emotions",was a narcissist, totally demonized me. If the ex-P had been a friend or a classmate, I could've brushed him off. Totally dropped him. But this was a teacher in a position of authority,and trust. A constant motif was him accusing me of "not taking him seriously." I wasn't allowed to end phone calls with "have a nice day" or "have a happy evening" because he'd drone "you're not a happy person." He'd constantly tell me I was unhappy... when he'd act in ways that would make a normal person unhappy. After the D&D and meeting the girlfriend, he claimed that I had a "low opinion of him" and didn't respect him. When I went NC and got engrossed in teacher education (while going through PTSD), I got booted out of it without warning (and over the phone, instead of in person) because I was a "danger to children." I'm sure the ex-P was behind it... because he had written my letter of recommendation. I had been in it for at least a month.* *There is a happy ending. I later taught for a year and a half at a tutoring center. So,obviously NOT dangerous to children!

allthatglittters gave you a really good link, i enjoyed reading it.Here is projection also in a nutshell, he sent me a hateful,venomous letter a month or so ago, because i raised the issue in a letter to him about re=examining his relationship with his mother, so he calls me whore, slut, offering free sex on the internet, first come ,first served, and saying i was ready to get a computer with a webcam and do cybersex in my desperate and depraved condition, ALL his words, that is where HE IS AT NOW in his life...............