I feel for ya girl. Atleast I had 15 years of peace from the Narc. As a third party looking at your posts I think to myself Why does she care anything about that creep he is a piece of shit. Then I realized that's what y'all must say about me and the fact that I've been talking to the narc. Things are clear when you are a third party to the situation so try to look at your situation as if you are out of your body and a third party to the situation or read your story as if you were reading someoneelses story and take note of your thoughts that's when you begin to see how horrendous it all is. I am trying this and it seems to be helping a bit
As outsiders, all of us who have been through similar situations, we are giving you the best advice we can offer. And you know you are stuck in a really bad place, and you need to have faith in what everyone here is saying. You are not strong enough right now to make rational decisions. We want to help you, and we really all want what is best for you and your kids.
You really are the winner in this. And she is the loser. And the harder she falls for him, the harder she will fall when he ends it. And he will, it's what they do. Maybe thinking of that will help you along, knowing that one of these days she will be in just as much pain as you are. That she will be the one who is jealous of you and how you've moved on and she is stuck in a really bad place.
Try to redirect your thoughts to YOU, not them. Think about what you have, not what you don't have. And please, please try not to talk to him so much. That's most of what is keeping you stuck.
Ms.V, thank you for saying that, i guess right now, the hope that he will leave her too, makes me feel a little better, and hearing it from you, who is so honest with me, as is everyone here, that means the world. i know in my heart that is what they do, its just why does it take so long, i know, in the scheme of things, living with her for six months is not that long, especially since, he continues to do what he does best, lie, cheat and manipulate, im just angry sometimes that she has no idea, no clue, and walks around like she won the prize, like shes all that, because she got a wife to throw her husband out and now she has him, but so funny, somewhere along the way, someone forgot to tell her, the prize is a breathing piece of shit, who will suck her dry in everyway known to man. shes living the great illusion, believing, very cocky, i might add, that she saved him from his horrible life with me. can you imagine, as one of my friends said, if she ever knew he continued to tell me he loves me misses me, wishes he were still here, etc, my friend said that would be worse than knowing about the others, then she would really know he lied about how he feels about me. its sucks because we live in same town, two minutes away from eachother and she still has no idea, but for me, its torture, knowing he lays his head on her pillow everynite and gives her my illusion, i know, it was only an illusion and he is a disgusting excuse for a man, hes sick, mentally, and cruel, to the bone, please tell me, he will turn on her as well, someday......but thank you so much for reassuring me, they do always leave......i feel better.......Jaycee
sick of it, Oh, im so with you, if i were a third party, i would say why in the world would this beautiful kind hearted woman, deal with such a lying piece of shit, but i guess the fact that i loved him so deeply and put up with him for so many years, its hard to let go. i know what he is, i know i deserve better, yet, i cant let go, its all so sad what others can do to us......i pray for you and hope you will ask God to answer my prayers as well.......Jaycee
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