The Garbage Can

When you neglect to answer their phone calls or text long enough they no longer believe they have these 'rights'. If you must because of children, etc... there is the perfect response that someone else here posted a long time ago, nothing sends the message better than just a very simple 'k'. the end. then of course you don't comply. do this often enough and it will teach the lesson. almostlydia

wow. i have had the exact same thing happen with my x right after he divorced me.... seriously. i posted it under 'look what the most minimal contact will do' he askes me to call the bank for him days after divorcing me. i said 'no, we are not married anymore. i'm not trying to be rude, just setting a boundary. have a nice day, though.' his response? 'this is a good example of why i divorced you' two days later i got a text saying 'sorry for that email, hoping u have a nice day' then, after that, we were supposed ot be good old friends. i'm not supposed to be angry... just all forgiving and in need of his love. FUCK YOUR X HUSBAND

The NERVE is a thing to behold LOL!! The last time I heard my exNarc's voice was during the divorce trial. He was in prison during the trial, broadcasting live on a specially arranged speaker phone. What a dog and pony show! It took me an entire year to be able to laugh, but anyway . . . while we were wrapping up after the judge gave his decision, the exNarc had the audacity to start giving me "suggestions" over the speaker phone. From PRISON. On what kinds of things I should do about this or that mutual belonging, giving me "permission" to use his box truck. My lawyer and I just looked at each other. I said "He has absolutely no shame", and my lawyer said "No shit." So even from the pulpit of a prison speakerphone, a Narc can pontificate.

Welcome Paisley. I'm fairly new here, too. These N's are absurd with their self-absorbing attitudes, aren't they? They have absolutely no concept of boundaries. I could see my xn trying to pull something like your garbage can story. Mine actually had the nerve to get mad at me for changing the locks on my property, right after he D&D'd me. He wanted a plastic shed that was on my property. The divorce was already final, and the property was completely separated. I legally didn't have to let him take anything. However, I was trying to nice (bad move on my part). Yes, I know that no good deed goes unpunished when dealing with an N. When he asked, I told N to come get the shed immediately after work. I knew that I wouldn't be there, and I wouldn't have to deal with him. Unfortunately, he was waiting when I finally came home (deliberately I'm sure). N was absolutely furious that I'd changed the locks on my house, and HE couldn't go inside to get a drink, use the toilet, and blob on my couch like he wanted. We are DIVORCED, for crying out loud! Mi casa NO es su casa (my house is NOT his house). When he jumped all over me, I told him, "It's MY house. I can do whatever I want with it. You're only here to get the shed. Obviously you were trying to use my keys, that you haven't returned, to go somewhere you have no right." Then I walked into the house, locked the doors, and ignored him until he finally left. I hope the mosquitoes ate him alive while he was out there pouting in the driveway. :) The funny part, to me, about all of this is that the NEXT morning, he put all my old keys into my mailbox at work. I'd been asking for him to return them to me for weeks, and getting excuse, excuse, excuse, stall, stall, stall from him. I guess he could afford to be "noble" returning my keys to me now that he knew they work on NOTHING. lol. Just like in your story, my N seems to have the idea that, even though we no longer have any relationship, he should just be able to waltz into my life whenever his wishes, and I should melt into a subservient mass at his feet in order to serve him. Not likely to happen in my world. lol. N's really are a bunch of self-centered jerks. I guess in their twisted minds, it truly is "all about them".

That is hilarious. What part of you moving out and divorcing his ass made him think you would be doing that? Idiot.

My ex narc went on vacation with his kids and before he left asked if I would get his mail and weed his garden! Excuse me? By this time we had been together for 2 years and he didn't even hint at me going on vacation as well. When his family comes to visit they all spent most of the time working in his garden. He treats them like field hands. Blechhhh! I truly think he just likes to see what he can make people do. It gives him a sense of power when people do his bidding.

Welcome. Very well done girl. Tell him to think himself to his freaking garbage can and to put himself into it, just to do the human race a favour. :-))))

Ya, I did the same thing for over a year... the lurking thing. And "WELCOME!" ~ you'll be glad :) Sorry to smirk here, but this one "task" reeks of 'control' and "n".... again welcome! ~~~ Keep Learning & Keep Healing ~~~ ~~~~~ The best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you don't give them, --she said, (taken from my final remarks in a Sync Weekly Magazine article about my art and mySelf