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The Chessiest things they ever said to you

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Aug 30 - 5PM (Reply to #32)
gettinbetter
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yep

they always contradict themselves. "Narc Natter" I like that one!
Aug 30 - 1PM
jujubee
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Here's another one.....

"You challenge my mind, babe. Not many women can do that." and, on the day he disappeared..... "you are a nice girl. I would rather end things now and have you hate me for five days than to wait a year and have you hate me forever."
Aug 30 - 3PM (Reply to #29)
gettinbetter
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Ha!

mine said "It was a good thing we didnt marry. You would have ended up hating me" My reply: Wtf I hate you now and were not married!
Aug 30 - 2PM (Reply to #28)
Used
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anyone

this a technical question, how do i get my words to appear in lines like yours and not like this all in one paragraph.thanks
Aug 30 - 1PM
WellRed
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After hitting on numerous

After hitting on numerous friends of mine - to no avail - "I CAN'T GET LAID BECAUSE OF YOU!!"
Aug 31 - 12AM (Reply to #25)
sweetsamm
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wish i had your friends...

You're lucky your friends said no....all of my 'friends' said yes..! Mr.drunk,short,dirty,landscaper was all of a sudden in high demand....
Aug 31 - 8AM (Reply to #26)
WellRed
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Stay sweet

Stay sweet sweetsamm.....they were not friends of yours. I don't know your story, but stay strong.
Aug 30 - 7AM
gettinbetter
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and another...

"I know this is wrong but I feel like (referring to my family) thats my family not his" Interesting how they think you are "theirs" they just let others barrow you for awhile. One time he told my friend "she's mine and ill be back for her when I want her." and I guess he meant cause hes back 15 years later
Aug 31 - 12PM (Reply to #22)
sweetsamm
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To sick of it

Me and N are done,stay the fu## away from my family! He is so cunning,still tries to call my mom and dad and tell them i'm crazy....they'll actually question me about things every once in a while! I finally lost it the other day,i told my mom to not talk to him! I said,what don't you get about him being a psychopath, him screwing craigslist hookers while we were together,verbally and physically abusing me,sleeping with my girlfriends,slandering my name all over town,makes anything he says worth listening to???? After talking to my parents he'll say things like 'even your parents think youre crazy'...then i'll question my parents and they're like,'we would never say anything like that,he just called to talk to his daughter while i was babysitting',he still has me questioning things..i hate it....i told my parents to remember that I'M their daughter and they need to have loyalties to only me and NC him too!!! Sorry for getting off the topic,but your comment about your family being yours hit a nerve with me.....
Sep 3 - 10PM (Reply to #23)
gettinbetter
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Sweet Sam

During Round 1 with him (in my twenties) my parents thought he was such a "nice boy " said and did all the right things until they watched there very outgoing daughter turn into someone they didnt even know anymore. Dark and Depressed but they truly got the picture when one night I went to the movies with my mom and who is a couple of rows back sitting with a girl? Yep you got it. Thats when my parents began to open their eyes to what he was doing to me. At first they used to think I was just paranoid. however the family he was referring to was me, and my child. He said he didnt have anything against my husband but when he saw our pictures couldnt help but think "thats my family not his" Well Gee I would hope that you wouldnt have anything against my husband since you left me and have been gone for 15 years. Let clueless and I be a lesson to everyone that these people really do come back they are never gone forever. You think you are strong and can speak to them on a "friendly" level and that you are strong enough to keep them at arms length but your NOT. I cant believe I let penetrate my heart and mind again. I feel like such and IDIOT!
Aug 29 - 10PM
gettinbetter
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Now this doesnt really fit cheesy BUT

can you believe this: Years ago he told me he f ing hated me. I brought that up to him saying that I believed he meant that all those years ago with the way he was currently treating me. His reponse: "Thats the most hateful thing I have ever heard. Stop it now. Its not fair the way you treat me." EXCUSE ME!!! THATS WHAT YOU SAID TO ME!!! AND SOMEHOW YOU ARE OFFENDED BY IT????? I feel my blood pressure elevating. I going to return to calmness now.
Aug 29 - 10PM
M
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as we were divorcing

"It's going to kill me to see the guy living my life with you in this house." Um, you filed.
Aug 30 - 9AM (Reply to #19)
betty2020
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Lol...that selective memory

Lol...that selective memory thing again!!! only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Aug 29 - 10PM (Reply to #18)
gettinbetter
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another nice one

"It"s gonna kill'em" (refering to my relationship)
Aug 29 - 10PM
helldweller
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cheesy bs

"I've been waiting for a good mother for my children."
Aug 29 - 10PM (Reply to #16)
gettinbetter
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and here's another....

"My Ex is white trash Im still in love with you because of the way you were raised" I mean really because of the way I was raised please!" what a freakin cheese ball!
Aug 29 - 9PM
betty2020
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"I like my women like i like

"I like my women like i like my coffee, with nothing in it"...huh?? Thats a new take on an old saying. So were "Its with nothing"? OMG. Get it right Chester the molester I just smiled as usual..ugh only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Aug 30 - 1PM (Reply to #14)
ShaynasMommy
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"with nothin in it..."

Sounds like projection to me! LOL
Aug 29 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
gettinbetter
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How about...

Baby you've always been an exception. (I think I just threw up in my mouth a little) I have so many but Im kinda afraid to post becuase they are so specific. Oh WTF who cares what he thinks anyway
Aug 30 - 6AM (Reply to #13)
Used
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sick of it

dont worry about too specific, they all come out with the same old lines, 2 i have just read on here were said to me, lol.
Aug 30 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
suzanneJ
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What was I thinking?

After my N and I met I asked him what was he thinking the first time he saw me. He said he felt like he was the snake and I was the mouse and I was moving really fast like I knew I was cornered. When I got his first phone call he seemed a bit like a stalker and then he charmed me with his poetic lines.
Aug 30 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
blueeyes
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Cheesy BS!

My NH: "I'm not being conceited but I am the best at anything I do." "You never care about my feelings..it's all about you" Yeah right!!!!!!!
Aug 30 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
gettinbetter
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yes i had the you never care about

my feelings it all about you too! lol
Aug 31 - 8AM (Reply to #6)
blueeyes
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sick of it...

SHOCKING similiarities.
Aug 31 - 9PM (Reply to #7)
tigger73
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Oh I have one for you!!!!!

Oh I have one for you!!!!! Please do not be offended.....but this is something I will never forget and this sentence made me realize how freaky he really is. O.k. Ready? Here goes....... Narc says....... "can we have sex for one last time before you leave" aka take the kids and move out after 10 yrs, 3 kids.. I say....."Narc, please don't ask me anymore to have sex with you, it is too confusing and I can't do it". So, I proceed to start my day, last day in the house, moving people were going to be there soon.....I walk back into the bedroom and there he is, in bed obviously aroused, and looks at me and goes, "I'm sorry honey, but I still have to take care of this"......MEANING his "aroused state"........ I just about vomitted. I will NEVER EVER EVER EVER forget that EVER!!!!!!
Sep 4 - 2AM (Reply to #12)
fooled no longer
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aroused

Youre a better woman than me. I think I would have become Lorenna Bobbit on the spot. Thats no maybe!
Aug 31 - 9PM (Reply to #11)
aceonelady
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vomiting...tigger73

I have no words for this SOB....I am sorry you went trough this...i think i would had done something about HIS STATE....

Aceonelady

Aug 31 - 9PM (Reply to #8)
tigger73
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And keep this in

And keep this in mind.......this is the very day I am moving the 3 children and myself out of the family home that WE JUST BUILT.... OUR DREAM HOME!!!! He wasn't upset that I was taking his 2, 8 and 13 yr old away.......nope, just concerned about his hard on. I feel like cussing right now.
Sep 1 - 1AM (Reply to #9)
sweetsamm
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What a creep!! Why are they

What a creep!! Why are they all such perv sexual devients? Always wanting sex,even during times of crisis...........i hate them.
Sep 3 - 10PM (Reply to #10)
tigger73
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Oh here's another dandy that

Oh here's another dandy that just hit me.......At the end when I accused him of also being a pervert, he explained to me that since we had separated and weren't living together, he was no longer waking up aroused and that "all went away", meaning his desire to screw everyday, every minute..... "Honey, it had everything to do with you and my love for you". That is the pathetic quote, and I'm not kidding. blah blah blah ...... So, this is precisely why the day I told him to get the hell out of my way with his stupid erection, and to leave me the hell alone, he already had his next source lined up. No kidding. They were screwing in my new home, the night the kids and I moved out. Yep. What a freak.