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#1 Aug 17 - 1AM
thisisnotfun
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WHYY!!

am i scared for his texts now?? I know he is working and will be off in an hour..thats when he texted me last night! I don't want to go through this again with the crap he has to say now. My best friend worked tonight with him and he even asked her why i was ignoring him and she just said shes not getting involved and he didn't understand..so he still wants to know things about me..and he was mad cause she didn't give him any "insight" and he told her not to worry about how he finds stuff out on my facebook! I know things are going to worse with him and things he has to tell me...I'm setting myself for it...it just hurts even worse knowing that!

Aug 17 - 8PM
thisisnotfun
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Facebook

My darling daughter, he hoovering you. He knows what you are doing because he reads it on FB. Stop writing about your life on FB. Right now, we don't know how he has access, but he has access. All you can do is stop posting on FB for now. I know it isn't right or fair but nothing stops these guys from playing games..... :) Yes, he is playing games with you as he knows that will get your goat... NC all the way..
Aug 17 - 1AM
almostlydia
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When you are ready to NOT

When you are ready to NOT need to hear from him anymore then you will be ready to change your number so he can not reach you. It is an empowering thing to take charge of your life in such a way. It is hard. We all secretly want to think that they love us so much they have to contact us. And when it stops, it is another step in the getting over it part. When you decide you want nothing more to do with this man that continues to hurt you and never stops and never will stop, you will be ready to change the number. It is not unusual to be afraid of what they are going to send next because we have given them the power to crush us to the core. And they always do. This is their goal in life. To cause hurt. This is why No Contact is the only way to end your torment. I hope you will learn to see that and do it for you. almostlydia

almostlydia

Aug 17 - 1AM (Reply to #2)
thisisnotfun
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I don't care

what he has to say cause i know it is just another way of getting under my skin...but words hit hard to the hard..true or not! He knows what will make me upset..thats why he said what he said last night..i hope he does not contact me tonight or for awhile..enough for me to really not care. I am over everything that has happend..just not over him..and what he had. I know it takes time and i will eventually...just hard to realize everything and how fast things went downhill
Aug 17 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
NinjaGirl
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May I recommend that you

May I recommend that you block him on Facebook? That way he can't see you, and you can't see him. That's what I did as soon as I saw that my ex had signed up for Facebook, and it has brought me nothing but peace.
Aug 17 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
thisisnotfun
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my ex doesnt

even have a facebook though!! He is somehow getting to it and i have no idea how..i have changed my password and deleted everyone he knows
Aug 17 - 12PM (Reply to #9)
Used
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fb

i was told by swomeone if you havent got fb, you can google someone,s name and that can take you in to them, or someone you both know and do it like that, plus you cant know weather he has facebook, i know 3 people with fb. and nobody can see them. and they have a diffrent person on everyone.you dont have to have fb in your own name, but if he knows the name of your friends or family thats all he has to do fb them, which leads to you, change your name and dont have a photo up.
Aug 17 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
Goldie
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Did you change your email password?

He can get your new password off your email account or if he can get into your computer off site he can access your passwords if they are saved on there anywhere. My computer is new and has all the latest features and will save all my passwords if I allow it to, which I do not. You may want to change all your passwords. Just make sure you are very calm when you do this, you don't want to trip up and make any mistakes and then have trouble accessing your own accounts. I have seen people do this when they are upset. Calm down take a deep breath and protect your privacy. God bless, Goldie
Aug 17 - 12PM (Reply to #6)
Mariline
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Format your hard disk. The N

Format your hard disk. The N previous to this last one put two spywares in my PC. He read EVERYTHING. He knew everything from my bank account details to my phone calls, to my diary and my blog...everything. If you have even a little suspect bring the pc to an expert. Have it formatted and checked for spywares. It was the reason why I found this site. I googled the words "control". And I discovered Narcissism.
Aug 17 - 5PM (Reply to #7)
thisisnotfun
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he has

no idea what my email and passwords are...i have never gaven them to him..my privacys settings are completly private and you have to be my friend to even look and my profile..and i have deleted all his friends..people he works with and family...still he finds a way...he has never been on my computer either!
Aug 17 - 10PM (Reply to #8)
MsVulcan500
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If he's not on FB, he's

If he's not on FB, he's getting the info somehow. So what you need to do is either not post any status updates, or if you do, make it something that tells nothing about what is going on in your life. Just comment on other people's statuses if you want, but again, leave out personal details about what is going on with you. Also in your privacy settings, make sure all of the little boxes about being able to search you are unchecked. Have someone who you are not FB friends with look at your profile to make sure it is really as private as you think it is. I had one of my daughter's friends do that for me and she told me what she could see on my profile. Good luck, and I know you are struggling. We have all been there, but I promise, with NC and some time you will come through this. One advantage you have over the rest of us is you have a mom who loves you and also understands what you are going through.