Anyone else have an ex-N that was a hypochondriac? Mine was always complaining of some illness that he must have and headaches that seemed to last for weeks at a time.
he was a hypochondriac, but damn, when he got sick, it was the end of the world. A cold would knock him on his ass for like 2 weeks. I,on the other hand, was not allowed to get sick !!
And he always thought he had some crazy heart condition, even though he was NEVER diagnosed. But I think I figured it out--HE HAD NO HEART--there you go asshole, DIAGNOSED !!
Yes. My late husband (NOT THE HORRID N/P)was a really kind a gentle man, but looking back he had a lot of N tendencies, just a lot lower down on the scale. He had a psychotic break from reality when he was 41 and became a full blown hypochondriac. Years of ambulances, ER visits, thousands on doctors, psychiatric hospitals, he took his own life after living 7 years of hypochondriac hell.
Now that I have read so much about narcissism and sociopaths..., it falls in place. His father was a raging N and actually the whole family was. My husband was very successful but it was somehow never enough.
For him I will always have love and sympathy. For N/P ex-"boyfriend" no. The N/P was a bit of a hypochondriac, but since he was such a liar, who knows, he might have been using that to further torment me.
Peace. J
Interesting question: I would imagine that living a life of lies and living multiple secret lives would cause alot of anxiety that would then triggle all kinds of physical problems. But then again, if they have no conscience, none of that bad living would trigger anything!
i happen to agree in away with you tho they are not suppose to have feelings, if he got to strssed or caught out, he used to get sore,s on his lip,s that covered the lips, one day when he was again begging me to come back,he had 3 cold sores and a giant yellow spot all on his lips, [well i hope they were cold sores, thank god i never went near him in that way, but i remember looking at him thinking, he,s begging me too come back with all that on his mouth doesnt he know how gruesome he looked, or was i suppose to think oh he is rundow, cos i said no, have just had a thought tho, those "cold" sore,s were realy disgusting, but were they realy something else, and that yellow ball of pus, stayed in my mind for ages. but yes i do think when things begin goin awry, they get sick, even his siatica i thought was stress related. so i do remember saying something to my theripist about how could this be, and she said they are still human. lol that reminds me he begged to see a therapist[yes my fault again] but when he was assessed they said no and refused to see him. bit weird realy cos he was seeing a shrink but that was cos the court ordered it, my god what was i doing.
My ex-Psych professor fancied himself a sex god/philosopher, always well-groomed... yet he had the worst teeth. It looked like he hadn't seen a dentist IN YEARS. I've only seen such bad teeth on homeless people. His teeth looked like had been smoking SOMETHING, but worse. Disgusting whenever he opened his mouth. I wanted to give him a bottle of mouthwash and toothpaste as proof of my love, they were THAT bad.
Usually,Ns/Ps can look quite good while their partners physically decline (gain or lose weight,more illnesses) My ex-P gained paunch and crows' feet over the period of 4 years. In my presence, he hardly ate anything (and he was a messy eater) But he was getting that front tire SOMEWHERE.
I was reading about it and it says that narcs are so centered on thinking about themselves that they imagine that something is always wrong because they consider themselves so important that they are fearful of anything happening to them (the important one)
My ex-Psych professor was the exact opposite. He gave himself a deep cut in lab... and his reaction was so eerie it freaked people out. Here he was, bleeding, contemplating his wound thoughtfully in an incredibly detached way. A normal person would've, at the least, said, "Ouch!" He bragged about having a high pain threshhold.
When he got a sunburn on his face, he grew a beard. Strange way of being vain.
He claimed that consuming chocolate and coffee hurt his stomach.. yet he consumed BOTH to mirror me. He even said that he was imitating me to "show how ridiculous I was." Really.
He had an odd detachment from his body. He waffled between complaining about pain and exhaustion... to being seemingly incapable of feeling any physical pain, let alone emotional pain.
He could be vain about his physical appearance, yet he had terrible teeth. He had smoker's teeth, and some of them were clearly rotting.
A lot of people observed how their "relationships" with Ns/Ps led to physical decline. Over 4 years, I saw my ex-Psych get paunchy, get a double chin. He was losing his looks,yet as still as vain as ever.
yehs they never stop and the amazing thing with exh, he used to say i dont feel well today, and you know me , ime never ill , he was never well he means, from diebtus, to beign riddled [his word] with arthuritis, if didnt have it it didnt exsist, and woe betide anyone in family should be ill, he would say thats not ill, this is ill, if i had a headache, his was migrine, if i had a migraine, he had a fucking brain tumor[ dont you need a brain for that anyway, well he is still about and so is n and nm, and she is 84 this week, talk about hanging gate last,s the longest. but the devil always look,s after his own.
Mine was every few months someone says he has reported to them he's dying . Everything is always wrong with him. Either his chest hurt of his back hurt or his eyes were burning. I think this is pretty common among narcs because of the attention of it all.
Mine too, It was always something. Stomach ache, head ache, dizziness, fatigue, heart palpitations, backache, swollen glands, hemmeroids,i could go on and on. I was crazy trying to find different doctors all the time to try to help him. Every doctor would say the same thing though, he was fine nothing wrong with him. One doctor said that he suggested I drop him off a mile away from home and let him walk because he could use some exercise.
i was out with narc one day, that day it was siatica, he then said i think i am going to faint[all 19stone of him,] and i said ime not giving you a fucking firemans lift, funny he recovered after that, he was popping painkillers all day, dozy bastard.
Mine ate excedrine all day everyday. Then complained of a stomach ache! We would tip toe around him all the time as his head was always hurting and we didnt want to make any noise. He would always let everyone know about all his little aches and pains. He never wanted to go to the doctor though. I think he was afraid that they would tell him he was ok.
i like that, he went to the doctors to get antibiotics, had flu, when they didnt work, he went back, ranting and raving, asking for more the dr kicked in out and to him, get out i have sick people to see, 3days later he got a letter from the practice, saying if he acted like that again, he would have to find another doctor, he said to me why does everyone pick on me. oh bless, a week later he got a letter from his solicotor, saying the same thing, when i met him he said he had never been on antidepressants, by year 2, he was popping diazapan like smarties, while telling me it was my fault, cos i had got in his head, well it was empty enough for me to fit in.
Mine demanded his doctor give him discounts when he waited to long, telling him that his time was important. I was always embarrassed to go to the doctor with him. He was blacklisted from the dealership where we bought our car and the company we had cell phones through. they actually blocked him from calling customer service it would just leave him on hold forever (literally), so i called one day and got right through. The dealership said they would take care of a warranty issue for me if I would leave his name off the paperwork because the service manager would refuse if he saw his name on the paperwork.
that,s been a bit of an eye opener, what you wrote, i thought it was just me getting the lunitics, even that he projected on me by saying i only act like this with you, how did i buy that after seeing the letters of complaints he got from all and sundrey,he has even been barred from some of our local shop and restraunts, talk about i only saw what i wanted to see, and one day i had to take something back to a shop[exh came with me]it should have been straightforward, i had the reciept, was talking ok to assisant, when he suddenly bellowed, you should be giving her compensation for having to bring this back. wtf, it ended with us both beign asked to leave the shop, me for that day him for ever. when we got out i said why did you start he uttered the imortal words i heard all thru my marriage[for fucks sake shut up everywhere you go you cause fucking trouble] i was doing you a favor coming with you, i didnt bloody ask him too ,he invited himself. all that anger and rage they carry about with them, so if when we wonder how the ow is beign treated, i think of what i was told, she is getting what you got used. "abused" and lies, so true.
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Yes. My late husband (NOT
Peace. J
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Hypochondria
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Nasty teeth,and that front tire
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Weird way of handling physical problems
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Mine was every few months
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