So here's a query..

Mine got married to me because he wanted me to help him finance a house he could not afford on his own. We had been dating for 6 perfect months. I told him I would never live with or buy property with a man to whom I was not married. I told him that a house was not a reason to get married. He told me that he loved me, that he wanted to marry me (true-he had been talking about marriage since 6 weeks into the instant relationship). Also he saw us living in the house & being happy together. AND I wanted to believe. So we got engaged, made a bid, got married and closed all in 8 weeks! Within 5 months of the marriage he began demanding a divorce on a monthly basis on the condition that he keeps the house. Mine. He's got this idea about marriage. I think he's lazy & wants to get the woman TIED down emotionally, financially, and legally. Had I NOT been married to him, had I NOT owned property with him, -- I would have been outa there about two years earlier than I bolted. Mine makes the whole relationship PUBLIC. It's difficult to walk away within one year of a wedding and the purchase of a house. This is why they want babies, marriages, houses, etc. They TIE you down & abuse you. Make it difficult to get away. Constantly dating & finding new victims means they have to be nice & spend money seducing women. And, what they want, in my opinion, is to be "trapped," to have an excuse for the harangue, the abuse. Projection onto the victim that he is trapped with her & therefore must abuse her because he is suffering so much because of her. If they are alone, then they have nobody to blame for why they feel so awful & angry all the time. They need a captive to blame for that which is really inside of themselves. And they think they are so great, but really, they cannot do much alone. They get their power by abusing the woman. Without her to abuse, he's paralyzed & a zero.