From Love to Obsession:????

36 posts / 0 new
Last post
Aug 9 - 5PM (Reply to #4)
Scoop
Scoop's picture

Betty

I would still not read too much into this . To start putting time frames to recovery ie 15 minutes , only serves to worry someone in to thinking they are abnormal because it might take 10 minutes or 30 minutes or a week .. .xx i was being flippent before you wrote thhe full text . Im pre menstral today .... Sorry .. xx
Aug 9 - 11PM (Reply to #5)
betty2020
betty2020's picture

The reference was relating

The reference was relating to those with OCD. It is a generalization of individuals that obsess and not in correlation to Narcissism. I was drawn to the comparison when looking at this and thinking that maybe i am missing something. In no way do i believe or feel that there is a time limit on recovery from what we have experienced. Im sorry if this was misunderstood Scoop. I think i am in serious introspection right now and possibly it is from the trauma of the loss of my niece. Dont know. Full of questions right now and cant seem to make sense of any of it...Ugh. only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Aug 10 - 4AM (Reply to #6)
Scoop
Scoop's picture

Betty

Oh heck its hard enough coping with ptsd and ocd let alone the death of youre niece .My heart goes out to you Betty at this time ... There will be happy times ahead for you .. thats a certain in this uncertain world . xx
Aug 10 - 6AM (Reply to #7)
betty2020
betty2020's picture

Yes i see those happy days

Yes i see those happy days on the horizon Scoop.. Thank you for the support. xoxo only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Aug 9 - 2PM
lynn61
lynn61's picture

betty

excellent food for thought betty! i have been thinking about this very thing so much lately. i know for sure that i had some huge co-dependency issues with my xN (who is also an addict) but what was so odd was that i wasn't co-dependent in hardly any of my other relationships. i was at times obsessive when catching him with other women but since the break-up spend too much time in thought about him. it is the very thing i am working through right now. i really appreciate your ongoing comments about our personal responsibility in all of this.

really??