And if you're able to I'd really recommend reading "Women who love psychopaths" its so enlightening. You can buy it in e-book version online. You are way too intelligent and beautiful for this dipstick. I know it feels shit now but it will pass, please please NC this guy because what I read a few weeks ago was so devastating to hear from such a young, beautiful woman who has her entire life ahead of her and deserves and is capable of a relationship with an amazing man that loves and respects her. Think of 5 memories over and over again that made you shudder. This helps to break the bond. Good memories aren't fragmented. Traumatic ones are. To recall the bad you'll need to make associations with the emotions but if you can train yourself to think of these 5 things each time you start thinking of the good stuff, instead I believe you will be on your way to breaking this attachment to this guy that has already had way too much of your precious time and emotion. Believe in you. Please be safe.
I just realized that i actually told him to keep sleeping with the 17 year old since we are taking things slow and i refuse to sleep with him. i told him to sleep eith her until she goes to college. i told my friend this and she asked what the hell is wrong with me! this means that shes the one in public with him, shes the one in his bed, shes the one on his bike. i just get the behind the scenes guy. how is that fair? thats not how it works! i know hes told her they arent together ane they wont be. she also knows we are talking but still! how in the hell did I COME UP WITH THAT!? it was my idea! when it comes to him i literally feel myself going crazy. i become the psycho person he tells people that i am!
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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"
That's awesome you gave him permission, since he's going to do that anyway.
She's leaving, what, in a couple weeks probably? So it's okay to "take things slow" right now, but when she's gone he might get a bit more impatient. Before I even read this post I'm replying to, I thought, well gee, he's got to get some supply lined up before the high school girl leaves for college. And as Lisa said, he is obsessed with the challenge of getting you back. Breaking into your apartment, stealing your stuff and treating you like dogshit didn't work so good, lying about you to everyone didn't work, running around with hs girls didn't work, so now let's play "take it slow." While you guys "work on your problems." What problems were those? Oh, you being too sensitive and getting mad too much? Are those some of your problems? Or was he the problem?
And how do you "know" he's told her they won't ever be "together"? Because HE told you that? You told us that according to your non-N sources that she thinks they are dating. I'm sure he's convinced her to be true to him while she's away at school so he can get some weekend and Christmas break bootie.
You're only doing these things because this guy has headf*cked you. It's not you, its your conditioning. You can stop this now though and put whatever has happened before behind you. You can do this by getting him out of your life. NC him. No more "reasoning" with the unreasonable and immoral.
But aren't you the least bit disgusted that this ADULT man is making a conscience choice to sleep with a MINOR child? Just that fact in itself should send you running the other way. That is statutory RAPE. Her parents could have him arrested!!!
And you told him it was ok to do this why you take things slow? Honey, come on. Have a little respect for yourself!
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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"
That's awesome you gave him
You're only doing these
Forgive me...
I have to
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