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Mar 25 - 8AM (Reply to #19)
Lisa E. Scott
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Betteroff

Do NOT talk to your N. You didn't make him into a monster.He is dangerous and you are better off without him. Believe us when we tell you it would have gotten worse. There's no reason you need to wait around to live through that. It's good you got out now! Stay strong, Lisa
Mar 25 - 8AM (Reply to #20)
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I did stay strong. I made

I did stay strong. I made it through another day. I read some stuff from lovefraud.com in the evening and that helped me not waver. It's funny, sometimes at night, when I'm half asleep, little things he said in the past become blazingly clear. He was soooo subtle, but he's definitely already twisted past events to absolve himself.
Mar 25 - 11AM (Reply to #21)
Lisa E. Scott
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Congrats BetterOff!

Yey! I'm so glad you did not contact him. Congrats! Yes, always remember the little things they say, write them down if you can. Later upon reflection, you realize how insidious they are. I'm so proud of you for staying strong!
Mar 23 - 9PM (Reply to #17)
Lisa E. Scott
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Barbara,

I love the song you posted, especially this: I'm gonna live my life And she told him she was never coming home I'm gonna live my life in my own way So many women don't live their lives because they get sucked into abusive relationships with narcissists who beat them down. xoxo, Lisa
Mar 7 - 4PM
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A Broken

A Broken Wing http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5RTX6DxJ5G8 This one is funny...I think the words go "I've stirred my last batch of gravy" but I honestly thought it was batch of crazy. lol When God-Fearin' Women Get The Blues http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5jiu7xw2dEI&feature=channel Stupid Boy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y0H4Vr6Czwo
Mar 7 - 10PM (Reply to #11)
Lisa E. Scott
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NUMB by Pink

Better Off - I love the songs you posted. The Martina McBride video is hilarious! I love the gravy verse! I am a huge fan of Pink! She has helped me through so much, it's unbelievable. I just turn her music on and sing my heart out. She is amazing and every one of her songs has a profound message. Here's a song of hers that, to me, describes exactly how you feel after many years of being beaten down by a narcissist....NUMB....novicaine...like nothing's real: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8GQg1jQHTA&feature=related
Mar 24 - 1AM (Reply to #12)
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I love pink too! Very

I love pink too! Very empowering!
Mar 4 - 6PM
Lisa E. Scott
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Music is healing

Dear Better Off, Thank you so much for starting a post about music! I love what you posted! Music is like food for my soul. I so agree with you that it is healing. To me, writing and music are extremely cathartic. If you don't have an outlet for your pain it will stay within you and become toxic. I grew up playing the piano and have always found music to be a source of great comfort and release to me. Recently, I started taking voice lessons and spent the last two weekends in a local recording studio here in Chicago. So to answer Grossot's question about my "Music" tab, if you click on it, it says "Coming Soon." What's coming? A collection of songs by my favorite artists that have helped me through many difficult times. Basically, I hired a band and re-recorded these songs in a studio. The experience was amazing. Even if nothing comes of it, just the opportunity to sing my heart out with an insanely talented band in a real studio to songs by my favorite artists was unbelievable. Indescribable, really. I'll be going into the studio a few more times to finish everything, but since I work full-time it's going to take several weeks before it's done. I hope to have it released by April. There are 12 songs in total and one original that I co-wrote. I believe these songs will be helpful to anyone going through the realization that they are in love with a narcissist. It is extremely difficult realizing that the person you fell in love with is not who you thought they were. With my CD, I hope to help you "sing-it-out" or as I often do "scream-it-out" to music. If you've never tried to feel better by singing passionately to music that speaks to you, I highly recommend you try it. It is incredibly healing. You've gotta get it out. You can't allow your emotions to linger inside you or worse yet, keep them down by stuffing them with food or alcohol. You have to release your feelings in order to heal. This messageboard is here for you to "write-it-out" and now I hope to bring a CD to you that will help you "sing-it-out." So, it should be done soon. I can't wait to share it with all of you! I want to keep the song list a secret, but to give you a little idea, one of the songs I've included is Alanis Morissette's song, "Not the Doctor" because it summarizes life with a narcissist beautifully, and I think you'll agree. Best, Lisa
Mar 4 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
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Lisa, I am so impressed at

Lisa, I am so impressed at your endeavor! I actually read your song lyrics and liked them very much. I see you've had to edit them out for now. I think artistic outlets are very healing. I am trying to do some things like that (not singing though, luckily for all of you) I also like the song Foolish Games by Jewel, but I can't get the video on youtube anymore. Actually I don't want to hear it atm anyway, because it makes me cry.
Mar 4 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
Lisa E. Scott
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Foolish Games!

Thanks, Better off! I really appreciate your feedback. Believe it or not, "Foolish Games" was one of the songs on my song list! I had 15 songs I wanted to record, but only got 12 recorded. Although, I'm told that's really good for a three day period. Now, we're going back in to the studio to perfect it and mix it. I am just blown away that you mention Foolish Games because that is one of my top favorite songs related to getting over a narcissist. We truly can relate, wow.
Mar 13 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
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Jive Talkin'

TGIF http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SLKEH5-9d1Q&feature=related
Mar 14 - 10AM (Reply to #5)
Lisa E. Scott
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Thank you, Better off!!!

Better Off, OMG! I love this! I never listened to these lyrics that closely until now. It is the perfect song about a Narcissist. I copied and pasted the words below. Thank you for sharing this! I love the music you post here. Please don't stop! Jive Talkin' lyrics Its just your jive talkin Youre telling me lies, yeah Jive talkin You wear a disguise Jive talkin So misunderstood, yeah Jive talkin You really no good Oh, my child Youll never know Just what you mean to me Oh, my child You got so much Youre gonna take away my energy With all your jive talkin Youre telling me lies, yeah Good lovin Still gets in my eyes Nobody believes what you say Its just your jive talkin That gets in the way Oh my love Youre so good Treating me so cruel There you go With your fancy lies Leavin me lookin Like a dumbstruck fool With all your Jive talkin Youre telling me lies, yeah Jive talkin You wear a disguise Jive talkin So misunderstood, yeah Jive talkin You just aint no good Love talkin Is all very fine, yeah Jive talkin Just isnt a crime And if theres somebody Youll love till you die Then all that jive talkin Just gets in your eye Jive talkin Youre telling me lies,yeah Good lovin Still gets in my eyes Nobody believes what you say Its just your jive talkin That gets in the way Love talkin Is all very fine, yeah Jive talkin, just isnt a crime And if theres somebody Youll love till you die Then all that jive talkin Just gets in your eye Jive talkin
Mar 16 - 8PM (Reply to #6)
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Torn

I heard Jive Talkin on the radio, and I was like..hey! this sounds familiar! lol Of course, How Deep Is Your Love was one of "our" songs. Dick. We also liked Natalie Imbruglia...I wonder if he likes this one: Torn http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTod6ecTzUg
Mar 16 - 9PM (Reply to #9)
Lisa E. Scott
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Torn

Hi BetterOff, Such a great song. It has always spoken to me. The lyrics are so fitting. Broken, torn, all of it. Says it all. Thanks for posting this! xoxo Lisa
Mar 16 - 8PM (Reply to #7)
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lyrics

I thought I saw a man brought to life He was warm, he came around like he was dignified He showed me what it was to cry Well you couldnt be that man I adored You dont seem to know, dont seem to care what your heart is for But I dont know him anymore Theres nothing where he used to lie My conversation has run dry Thats whats going on, nothings fine Im torn Im all out of faith, this is how I feel Im cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor Illusion never changed into something real Im wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn Youre a little late, Im already torn So I guess the fortune tellers right Should have seen just what was there and not some holy light To crawl beneath my veins and now I dont care, I have no luck, I dont miss it all that much Theres just so many things that I cant touch, Im torn Im all out of faith, this is how I feel Im cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor Illusion never changed into something real Im wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn Youre a little late, Im already torn. torn. Theres nothing where he used to lie My inspiration has run dry Thats whats going on, nothings right, Im torn Im all out of faith, this is how I feel Im cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor Illusion never changed into something real Im wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn Im all out of faith, this is how I feel Im cold and Im ashamed bound and broken on the floor Youre a little late, Im already torn
Jul 2 - 12PM (Reply to #8)
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Fire and Ice

Fire And Ice (T. Kelly, S. Sheets, P. Benatar) (from the album "Precious Time" [1981]) Ooh, you're givin' me the fever tonight I don't wanna give in, I'd be playin' with fire You forget, I've seen you work before Take 'em straight to the top, leave 'em cryin' for more I've seen you burn 'em before Chorus: Fire and ice, you come on like a flame then you turn a cold shoulder Fire and ice, I wanna give you my love But you'll just take a little piece of my heart You'll just tear it apart Movin' in for the kill tonight You got every advantage when they put out the lights It's not so pretty when it fades away 'Cause it's just an illusion in this passion play I've seen you burn 'em before (chorus) So you think you got it all figured out You're an expert in the field, without a doubt But I know your methods inside and out And I won't be taken in by fire and ice