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#1 Jul 21 - 2AM
Kelly
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Frank

So, I just watched the episode . . . .

He was my ex . . . In so many ways

So weird . . .

Looks almost exactly like him, same age and profession to boot

Oh . . and they are both HUGE narcissists!

Go Ally for saying all the things I wish I could have told my ex during our breakup.

Selfish Jerk

Jul 21 - 1PM
neveragain5
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Thinking back to other

Thinking back to other episodes, he was the only one that she had googly eyes for. It reminded me how I used to look at my ex. So enraptured and under his spell. Looking from the outside, I was wondering what was so great about him, but he had some magnetism that she felt drawn to. Frank's family kept sayng that he is a very emotional guy, which is how I was describing my ex at the beginning. Because she hadn't yet fell for him, he was on a high. But the closer that she got to narrowing it down and the more into him she got, the more freaked out he got about it. The thrill of the chase got boring and her emotional intimacy scared him. All I can say is go Chris! I have a feeling that she won't pick either Chris or Roberto though.
Jul 21 - 7PM (Reply to #7)
Kelly
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Why Frank said he was falling for Ali, but . . .

He could have been discarded and his ex was a sure taker. He was actually terrified of being discarded - more so than the other guys because he's a narcissist. I actually believe him when he said that he was "falling for Ali but in falling for her he realized his true feelings for his ex . . " or however he put it. I agree . . . Narc's usually have someone all lined up and ready first. . . He never had true feeling for Ali, but he probably felt such a high from all the attention he was getting from her and the producers. But there is no way a narcissist would ever let her dump him . . . I completely agree that the emotional intimacy must have terrified him as well . . . No way was he going to go there with her and she was asking him some tough questions. I feel really bad for his girlfriend - - she is completely blind right now isn't she . . . Go Ali!!!!
Jul 21 - 11PM (Reply to #8)
broken23
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Kelly sound like you have

Kelly sound like you have achieved PHD status on narc behavior. so true...that he probably believed he was falling for ali but was high from all the attention. hehe. yes, the old girlfriend is completely blind. i want a update in six months:) look you can follow him on facebook....douchebag. looks freakier than the show. http://www.facebook.com/photos.php?id=125043370857981
Jul 22 - 1AM (Reply to #9)
Kelly
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OMG

I just checked out that fb page! Wow . . . So many people wrote him that they still love him and don't fault him . . . WTF? I am all for following your heart and being true to yourself, but seriously, when you begin a relationship with someone, you do it with a clean pure heart. You don't just surprise that person one day with a - - - well, actually, I still have feelings for my ex and I went to see her and now we're in love again . . . (an ex who, btw was completely heartbroken when he left her in the past . . . ) It really is amazing how after you learn so much about narcissism, you can look at the consistency of the behavior and spot it where other people are completely blind to it! I discussed this with my therapist and she told me that I am now seeing the world without the rose colored glasses and that narcissists are everywhere. Such validation! She is helping to guide me through this. It's really like having a 6th sense! I have a feeling she's going to pick Roberto - Roberto is for sure in my opinion a narcissist. To be honest, I'm not crazy about Chris L either. He talks way too much about his mother. I get it, it hurt him a lot and that is definitely important - but it's playing up the sympathy card way too much and it's creepy the way he pretty much claimed her to be "The One" when he was with his family. Too much too soon with the bracelet and errrr it all spells controlling to me. He's probably a narc as well . . . Where are all the good guys?
Jul 21 - 12PM
broken23
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Lol So funny. That stood out

Lol So funny. That stood out to me the most too! How he said "I gave up everything too". Good for her for saying well not apparently everything. I mean like why did he have to go back to his girl first and then break up with Allie. If he wasnt feeling it ...leave. Better yet dont sign up for the show if you have unresolved issues. Its so annoying to me how they have to have the next person lined up!!! He couldnt be alone for a second. There had to be one or another!! how is it even possible to go from being intimate and saying i was falling in love with one person to all of a sudden saying i love you to the ex. It makes no sense and is maddening. I want to punch him.
Jul 21 - 9AM
neveragain5
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And notice when she said, "I

And notice when she said, "I gave up everything to be here, he said, "I did too". Made it about him and he was the one that was such an ass. Good for Ali! She dodged a bullet there! He probably ran because he knew saw how she acted with Justin. LOL
Jul 21 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
Lisa E. Scott
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Yes!

Yes, exactly! I noticed this too! "When she said, "I gave up everything to be here, he said, "I did too". Made it about him and he was the one that was such an ass." Yes, he made it about him, of course, didn't he? That stood out to me like a sore thumb. I am proud of her too. She is a smart girl. Loving the definition of jerk. lol
Jul 21 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
Kelly
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LOL!

It's so true!
Jul 21 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
Kelly
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He said so many typical narc things

Like when he was getting back together with his ex gf - she said she was devastated and he never even said a simple I'm sorry . . . His incredible powerful narcness has actually made "The Bachelorette" about him! Devoting an ENTIRE episode to HIM!!! Who else could pull that off? She was so spot on when she said at the end that she wants someone with character and that he was the biggest jerk she ever dated! He is the definition of jerk: jerk 1    /dʒɜrk/ Show Spelled[jurk] Show IPA –noun 1. a quick, sharp pull, thrust, twist, throw, or the like; a sudden movement: The train started with a jerk. 2. a spasmodic, usually involuntary, muscular movement, as the reflex action of pulling the hand away from a flame. 3. any sudden, quick movement of the body, as in dodging something. 4. Slang . a contemptibly naive, fatuous, foolish, or inconsequential person. 5. (in weightlifting) the raising of a weight from shoulder height to above the head by straightening the arms. 6. jerks, British Informal . physical jerks. 7. a dance, deriving from the twist, in which the dancers alternately thrust out their pelvises and their shoulders. 8. the jerks, paroxysms or violent spasmodic muscular movements, as resulting from excitement evoked by some religious services. –verb (used with object) 9. to pull, twist, move, thrust, or throw with a quick, suddenly arrested motion: She jerked the child by the hand. 10. to utter in a broken, spasmodic way. 11. Informal . to prepare, dispense, and serve (sodas, ice cream, etc.) at a soda fountain. –verb (used without object) 12. to give a jerk or jerks. 13. to move with a quick, sharp motion; move spasmodically. 14. to talk in a broken, spasmodic way. 15. Informal . to work as a soda jerk. 16. to dance the jerk. —Verb phrase 17. jerk off, Slang: Vulgar . to masturbate.