Your opinion please!

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#1 Jul 12 - 3PM

rainbow1

Your opinion please!

Ok my exN's ex is really good friends with a friend of mine. I have never met this ex but she always bothered me because my N would tell me things about her. She was also the only ex that he couldnt let go of. I always felt threatened by her. Everytime me and my exN break up he runs to her. Ive heard from other people that she wants nothing to do with him but that he wont stop pursuing her. This is the girl that he broke up with for me the day after he met me. Anyways, I have never met her and really have never had a desire to. Well we are all going camping this weekend and she asked our mutual friend if she can go. She knows that I will be there but she really wants to meet me. What do you guys think about this? Good idea? Bad idea? Alteriative motive?

#2 Jul 12 - 4PM

trying2overcome

Rainbow1

It might do you good but could be a mixed blessing. Personally I fear hearing anything or finding anything ELSE out that will hurt me. Just prepare yourself for the fact that she may tell you something that hurts or dredges up unwanted feelings. The flip side of that is, she may confirm every single thing you already know and you may think whew .. atleast its not just me!!!! you 2 may have some good laughs at his expense. The OW that my N dated when we were broke up last summer and I later found out that she kept contacting him and he was texting with her while we were together .. then ran right back to her for a month or so when I broke up with him keeps effin popping up everywhere .. her daughter is dating a friend of mines son, etc. I fear it so much I haven't even told any of my friends that I know who she is etc. but I know it is only a matter of time before we are face to face. I don't THINK they date but I am sure they still talk "FRIENDS = SUPPLY" She is bonkers for him because he has never focused on her and keeps breaking up with her .. she didn't get to stay around long enough to see what he REALLY is so she still has him on a pedestal. Sorry .. I am rambling .. I say listen to your gut and just prepare yourself for all scenarios. But you are rigth .. it would be funny .. he will flip!! hee hee

#3 Jul 12 - 4PM (Reply to #10)

rainbow1

trying2overcome

You are very right. I know that it would be good and bad at the same time. I am sure that she will tell me about him contacting her the whole time we were together. I am sure that she will have things to say that will really hurt me but I also think that she might be able to clarify any questions that I have. He uses her to hurt me. Hes told me that he didnt want to take her back once we broke up (I heard it was really her that didnt want him), he said he hung out with her the other day (I heard he didnt), he said that she is obessed with him and loves him (I heard she thinks he is gross). I think that while it might kill me it might also be the thing to make me stronger. I also think that there are some things that she needs to hear, like that he tried cheating on her with me the night he met me and things like that. I dont want her to get sucked back into this jerk again! Also I have a gut feeling that our mutual friend is really trying to get us together to talk. This is the second time that she has invited both of us to the same location. I think that she wants both of us to hear what the other one has to say. "dont let yesterday take up too much of today"

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#4 Jul 12 - 4PM

hopefuljms

Go!!!

I definitely think you should go. If only to clarify that it really wasn't her but it was all about him. Also, don't worry what he thinks he doesn't matter any more. Go if you would enjoy yourself, don't go if you think it will cause you any pain.

#5 Jul 12 - 4PM (Reply to #8)

Lisa E. Scott

Rainbow

Hopefuljms sums it up perfectly: "Don't worry what he thinks he doesn't matter any more. Go if you would enjoy yourself, don't go if you think it will cause you any pain."

#6 Jul 12 - 4PM

MissM

Gut feeling?

Rainbow what does your gut tell you you should do? My brains were frazzled by him so logical thought went out of the window and it's only just coming back. Go with your gut feeling, it never let me down and I don't think yours will either. Don't be drawn into mind games by other people; if your gut is screaming 'alterior motive', listen to it. Be well x

#7 Jul 12 - 4PM

AnotherPath

Do it she, you can have a

Do it she, you can have a good laugh at what a pathetic idiot he is.

Ending the dance

#8 Jul 12 - 4PM (Reply to #2)

NinjaGirl

Yep

I agree with this.

#9 Jul 12 - 4PM (Reply to #3)

rainbow1

It will be so funny if I go

It will be so funny if I go and he finds out. He will basically have a heart attack! He has done a pretty good job at making sure that we hate each other or will never want to run into the other one. I can just see the look on his face when he finds out! hahah. He would always lie to me about her and him trying to contact her. It would be nice for him to hear that I know everything now! He will s*it himself!

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#10 Jul 12 - 4PM (Reply to #4)

Steph

Don't do it if your goal is

Don't do it if your goal is to just get back at him. Do it if you think maybe this girl has sincere intentions of comparing strories with you - that I think would be helpful for you and validating:)

#11 Jul 12 - 4PM (Reply to #5)

rainbow1

staying strong78

That is not my goal, just a funny result out of the whole thing!

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