Help needed

This is why you have to STOP TALKING TO HIM. He talks in complete backwards talk and until you get away from him for a while you cannot see it. You have not one single reason to maintain contact with him now... the deal is done. You already know intellectually there are no answers or closure available. Just more twisting things around. The longer you talk to him, the more he will twist things around. It only gets MORE convoluted and twisted, not less. I will translate this one too: N came to the company. He was polite and kind to everyone. As mentioned before, he was polite and kind and FAKE to EVERYONE. You wrote long posts about this. He was FAKE TO EVERYONE... He asked me to do business with his new company and we reviewed engineering drawings. I told him that i wasn't sure. I don't know where our relationship should be heading because he would need to calm down on his criticism and I just was getting over my cognitive dissonance. And asked him why he wanted to work together again, since I thought he had thrown me out as yesterday's trash. A Short, calm email. Did he then respect your feelings? At ALL? Let's read on and examine if he is respecting your feelings, or if he is engaging in a lot of projection instead: He shoots back two long, flaming emails (basically claiming drama again). You write a calm email, he fires back two long flaming emails. Who is doing drama? N is doing drama and accuses YOU of drama. As to yesterday's trash - he doesn't address that at all. Why even ACKNOWLEDGE your feelings, they don't count! He just says "can't our companies do good work together?" Can't you just keep providing me with income?? No I'm sorry or anything like that. (but maybe this is his way of smoothing over our relationship without really apologizing?) Um, that's because he's NOT sorry. Of course he wants to smooth things over without apologizing!! You seem to think that means he wants to apologize with out apologizing. He can't apologize because he never does anything wrong, it's always your fault! Maybe he can even make you apologize to HIM for HIS behavior. Also, that he can't let my dissonance interfere with an important company to him. It violates all of his boundaries/values. He was perfectly justified in his critcisms of me. (see my "ALERT" thread) Covered that there... it's total bullshit. More backwards talk: YOU are perfectly justified in your criticism of HIM. HE violates all boundaries and values of normal people. And then he emailed the owner of my company today to say that his new company won't be working with mine since we have personal issues. Now he will punish you for being out of line with him. How dare you not do what he wants. He is going to TELL ON YOU!! (the owner just shrugged it all off and laughed - he gets what is going on here. and i'm sure he spared me the details of the email) That's right! He LAUGHED. Your N is RIDICULOUS. He tried to smear you to your own boss and made a total ASS out of himself. Other people LAUGH at him. Uggh... i hate this. I still so badly want to meet with him to try to get "straight answers" to get closure - but I know I won't. But can anyone give advise on what I could say - i just feel the need to wrap things up or get answers or something!! Maybe another way of asking is, could a normal person give answers as to why certain things transpired in our relationship? Im a logical person and what happened is not logical. Could a normal person have an open conversation and discussed what happened to try to make sense of things? Okay, honey bun. You know the answer to this. Of course you want all those things so badly. You're NORMAL. We all know how you are feeling. But the answer is the simple one that we all resist, and it's NO CONTACT. Right now he finally has nothing over you and nothing you truly need.. it's time. One day at a time, one minute at a time, but it's TIME to LET.HIM.GO. Or you will be saying all these things over and over and over again... it will never change. He will only be nice to you if you only agree with him and have no feelings of your own at all times. Please stop wasting any more of your precious time and life on this worthless idiot!!!