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#1 Jun 24 - 10PM

malloryforest

typical

So today is my birthday. I had a really wonderful day with my kids, mom, and some friends. Once again, my NF forgot my birthday. He has not remember my birthday for about ten years. No surprise, yet it still hurts. Crazy part is I threw him a big party for father's day. You would think he could remember my birthday once.

STBXNH also forgot my birthday. Didn't really bother me that there was no acknowledgement until my sons asked why daddy hadn't sent a card or called. Even though we are having our "issues," I had a party for him on his birthday. I did recieve messages from him all day telling me how sad he was cause he was fired and missed his family. Amazing to me.

Both of these men in my life are complete let downs.

#2 Jun 27 - 10PM

Jodie

Mallory

My STBXNH came to my apt and slept with me 2 days before my birthday. I mentioned my bday was coming up and he said he knew it was on May 19. Well my bday comes and guess what....no card, text, nothing! He forgot that fast!!!! In 2 days. I went off on him so the next day he brought me a card with a dog on the front, the inside read "No matter where you go or what you do you will always be a WEINER in my book. Happy Birthday." I'm so sorry your jerk husband forgot your bday. I know exactly how that feels. Thank God they will soon be our ex's. Life is way too short. "Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him."

"Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him."

#3 Jun 27 - 9PM

Carolyn

Your special day is nothing

Your special day is nothing to them. don't be so generous unless you chose to do it for the sake of the children involved but with the understanding that it is because you want to do it and know they are not capable of doing anything back. One narcissist I knew married 5 times -always on the same date Valentine's Day.

#4 Jun 26 - 1AM

Lisa E. Scott

Mallory

Happy belated b-day! Wow, so telling that he would send you messages all day about how sad he is and be completely oblivious to the fact that it is your b-day. You are so much better off without this mess of a man. I'm glad you feel grateful. You should. You have your children and that is a huge blessing. You may not be able to depend on the men in your life, but you will always have your children. That will never change and that is a God-send.

#5 Jun 24 - 10PM

Suzie (not verified)

Hey

Happy B day. screw those let downs, who needs um. You are great and they are too stupid to know it. Remember when Ricky Lake audiance members would shot "kick him to the curb" lol have a good rest of the day,night. Leah

#6 Jun 24 - 10PM

quietude (not verified)

mallory

I'm glad you're here then, because I want to wish you a Happy Birthday!!! You have made some huge strides since your last birthday, hmm? I know times are really tough, but what a nice present to yourself to finally start taking care of you, and stop being treated like crap. I know the pain still lives on, but I am very proud of your progress. I was just commenting to Barbara that I was much worse off just 4 months ago...still so confused and injured. Things aren't easy, but that annoying little insect buzzing around me has finally been squished! I understand the feeling of being let down by people who are supposed to love us. When this bothers me, I just think of how much better off I am than they are or will ever be, and that my life is real...not some fake illusion, and that I still have the capability to go on and find REAL love again. Glad you & the kids managed to have some fun...aren't kids such a blessing?

#7 Jun 24 - 11PM (Reply to #7)

Fawn

happy birthday Mallory

I so agree with you about kids. They are the true gems in our lives, and they are so special to us every day, but especially when we have those times when we wonder what in the hell we are doing alone with 3 children. They are the silver lining for me in what otherwise feels like 25 years of heartache and wasted time. Your stbx will just be someone they visit, you get to do the actual parenting. He is really floundering right now, and you get to walk away from the mess that he has made of his life.

#8 Jun 24 - 10PM (Reply to #6)

malloryforest

Quietude

Thank you for my birthday wish. You made an interesting comment, about making some huge strides since my last birthday. You are quite right. Last birthday, I had just given birth, and just found out about my STBXNHs affair. Talk about being in a totally different mental place! Back at that point, I would have done anything to keep my family together. Today, I realize that the most important part of my family is together! Kids are the most beautiful blessing. Someone like my father, and someone like my STBXNH will never really understand that blessing. I am just so thankful that I can truly love, delight in, and appreciate my children. Every moment with them is a blessing. They are the best birthday gifts in the world.

#9 Jun 24 - 10PM

Barbara (not verified)

Happy Birthday Mallory Forest!

telling me how sad HE was cause HE was fired and missed HIS family What does that tell you? ALL ABOUT HIM and his NON-EXISTANT, MADE UP FEELINGS to try to prey on your empathy. HIM HIM HIM. If I was there I'd buy you some drinks and a nice dinner. Hopefully now that you are aware of the problems and getting counseling - you will recognize these sub-humans before you even say "Hello." ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/

#10 Jun 24 - 10PM (Reply to #2)

malloryforest

I'd like a drink with

I'd like a drink with you Barbara. I just have a feeling it would be a really fun night. Working on my radar so I don't even breath the same air as these sub-humans. Got an email from MIL, wishing me a happy birthday. She asked me to call her some time. THis is the same MIL who had GF over at her house on her birthday less than three weeks ago. I just thanked her for acknowledging my birthday and signed my name. Nothing else. I am so tired of these people taking watever they want from me and the kids, giving nothing back, hurting me and the kids, and still expect some sort of relationship. I am done giving these kind of people any part of me. There are too many good, loving people in the world to share life with. It is ALL ABOUT HIM an MIL, and honestly, I don't have a drop of energy to spend of these people anymore.

#11 Jun 25 - 1AM (Reply to #3)

neveragain

Happy Birthday Mallory!

You're doing amazingly well right now. You have your priorities straight and you're making huge strides in your journey to Peace. You are an inspiration to the rest of us and we're all pulling for you. You have been able to discern the truth and right from wrong. I found it interesting that your father is a huge, self-absorbed, selfish, arrogant Narcissist too! Hmmmm.....things that make you go, "Hmmmm". I think that all of us who are targets had a Narcissist in our past that makes us perfect prey for our Current Narcissists attacks. I'm so glad you were able to have some semblance of a nice birthday. If I were there, I'd raise a toast to you too! You deserve to be celebrated and supported! So, let me clink my cyber-glass to yours and congratulate you on your tremendous progress! Go, spring forth, and conquer this foe! neveragain

#12 Jun 25 - 9AM (Reply to #4)

GhostBuster

Happy B-Day!

Enjoy your day, despite his psycho antics. I once got an "I didn't have time to think about your f'ing birthday!" rage when my ex N forgot. They're such lovely creatures, aren't they?

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